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to dislike 'Look how many presents my children have' posts?

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LooptheL00p · 15/12/2016 13:32

I've just seen the first one of the year pop up on Facebook, a picture of a living room absolutely full of toys, not even wrapped yet, captioned 'How am I going to wrap all of this?!'. I feel a (possibly unreasonable) amount of disdain towards these pictures!
I don't really mind how many presents people buy for their children, or if the pictures are more about the pretty wrapping/Christmas magic. But 'Look how much I've bought'?! It just seems common and somewhat of a pointless competition of oneupmanship to post online 🙄. Am I crazy or does this irritate others as well?

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Footinmouthasusual · 15/12/2016 13:35

Irritates me op and i would be tempted to post details of nearest toy drop for the Salvation Army. Don't forget to add the 'Hun'

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SoupDragon · 15/12/2016 13:36

Ah.... watching for this post is like watching for the first cuckoo of spring.

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LagunaBubbles · 15/12/2016 13:38

Cant say I get too bothered by this.

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Manumission · 15/12/2016 13:38

I'd stick anyone who did that on 'unfollow' or the restricted list. The only way to survive FB is to be zero tolerance about that kind of nonsense Smile

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Manumission · 15/12/2016 13:39

It's tradition soup. I can't get in the Christmas mood without exotic tales of mad FBers Smile

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Maudlinmaud · 15/12/2016 13:40

This is why I don't fb. Full of knobs and show offs. Everything has to be put online.

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ShelaghTurner · 15/12/2016 13:40

Here we go again. Might I suggest that you are following the wrong people if this irritates you? I like my FB friends and so I know whether they're the sort to brag. And if they were they wouldn't be my friends. Therefore nothing that any of them posts gets on my tits. Easy.

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NavyandWhite · 15/12/2016 13:40

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amusedbush · 15/12/2016 13:42

My DH calls it "bragbook" because of stuff like this.

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Packergator · 15/12/2016 13:43

My LB is only 16 months and it's already driving me potty how relatives are harping on about how much stuff they've got for him for Christmas. I don't mean to sound ungrateful (I'm really not as we can't afford to buy him anything ourselves this year) however he's a BABY. You could literally give him a cardboard box and some tin foil to play with and he'd be happy. I'm so worried about him growing up spoilt- especially as an only child- or with expectations that he'll get piles and piles of gifts every Christmas. So I'm not ever going to partake in this daft social media competitiveness thing.

I've made a point of buying little token gifts which I'm going to make him give to relatives before he gets his presents to make him understand- at some level!- that it's about giving as well as receiving!! When he's a bit older I'm determined to take him volunteering before Xmas so he can understand and appreciate how very lucky he is and how there are people out there who have very little and that he doesn't need millions of 'things' to be happy; just somewhere safe to live and a family who love him. Sorry, this turned into a bit of a rant; can you tell that the in-laws have been bugging me recently!? They're much wealthier than us and seem to only know how to express their love through material things...

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Packergator · 15/12/2016 13:44

...that's material things for our son. Wouldn't be so bloody bad if they decided to buy us a new car...selfish twats...Grin

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SEsofty · 15/12/2016 13:46

I've never, ever,ever seen this. Change your fb friends

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LooptheL00p · 15/12/2016 13:47

Oh goodness what have I done?! Please take pity on me as I'm fairly new to mumsnet!
I suppose I just feel that Facebook brings out a strange side to people. Perfectly normal, usually pleasant and non-boastful friends seem to transform somewhat at Christmas on fb. It's not really in the Christmas spirit is it?

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LunaLoveg00d · 15/12/2016 13:49

Totally agree. Common, tacky, boastful and probably from a "hun" who is desperate for validation from everyone around them.

Those of us who are more secure in our own skin do not measure our success as a parent in terms of the size of mountain of plastic tat our children open on Christmas morning.

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dingdongthewitchishere · 15/12/2016 13:50

Fair enough to dislike them, but why don't you just ignore. Bloody hell, there is so much going wrong in our world, I can't get negative about parents spoiling their kids. If I was a perfect parent, I might be able to judge, but I am not perfect and I am pretty you are not either.

Some posts are actually quite sweet. I have a few single mums friends, working 2 or even 3 jobs! to take care of their family. They are proud of themselves. Yes, they might be looking for a bit of attention, but so what. They work hard, and friends are here to support them. Kids might have a bit too much for Christmas, but they also have the example of a mother working non stop to support them.

Life is a lot more pleasant when you restrict your FB contacts to friends and family.

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Manumission · 15/12/2016 13:51

You're fine. I love these threads (I have boring decorous friends Wink ) Lots of us secretly like these seasonal marker threads, I'm sure Smile

More importantly, you're dead right. It's materialism Gawn maaaaaaf, I tell you 🎄 🍾 🎈

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GruochMacAlpin · 15/12/2016 13:55

I agree Loop a very good friend of mine - sensible in all other ways seems to lose all sense of propriety on FB. She recently posted a picture of the DC standing next to their. Birthday gifts so that you could see it was taller than the child. There was also a picture if small child waving a wad of cash.

She means (I assume) her posts as a "thank you" for all the kind gifts but it really comes across horribly.

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FourKidsNotCrazyYet · 15/12/2016 13:57

I find it slightly amusing to be honest. I always know the people that'll do it too. I did it one year (first Facebook year I think) and DH pointed out how awful it would be for someone less fortunate to see it. Never did it again!

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LooptheL00p · 15/12/2016 14:01

I don't disagree with the spoiling as such, more the way these pictures are posted in such a false way. If people would like to be ultimate consumers and spoil their children beyond reason, totally up to them! 😄

I would ignore the photos but more and more appear each year, it seems to be a new competition that I'm not aware of. These mothers are actually lovely friends of mine so I just don't understand why they do it!
Also ignoring it is not as fun as being a 'perfect parent, (far from it,) on mumsnet.

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LooptheL00p · 15/12/2016 14:04

Hmm, I'm going to have to see if I can predict who else will post present piles now, based on their level of 'Hun'ing. 😳

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dingdongthewitchishere · 15/12/2016 14:06

I have always seen pictures of kids opening their presents, sent by nearest family when we couldn't be with them to celebrate. They now post on social media instead of sending them by post, or emailing them. People are free to ignore.

Whatever you post on social media will always bring moaning. If it's negative, you are an attention seeker/ drama lama and so on. If it's positive, you are boring and an attention seeker. I find the negative reactions more entertaining than the actual posts, it's a bit like going straight for the comments on a Daily Mail article.

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MrsMattBomer · 15/12/2016 14:06

I had one of these once when someone posted a room full of stuff with the caption "I love Christmas, but why do I buy so much stuff to wrap?" and I replied, "Stupidity?"

She blocked me - result!

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StripyHorse · 15/12/2016 14:07

*I bet they also say...

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StripyHorse · 15/12/2016 14:10

Ooops corrected my post when I hadn't even posted 😶

I bet these pics also say #makingmemories which seems to be FB speak for "Look what a perfect parent I am."

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LunaLoveg00d · 15/12/2016 14:10

Hmm, I'm going to have to see if I can predict who else will post present piles now, based on their level of 'Hun'ing.

Clue - it will be the ones hashtagging posts with #makingmemories or #blessed or #perfectfamily, the ones who post daily updates about their elf on the fecking shelf and those who write in txt spk.

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