To want a breast reduction before I lose weight.

[OopsDearyMe]

Bit of an admission here. My relationship with my breasts is not great. I in fact detest them! They drive me so crazy that, when I read about the guy who cut off his own arm wit a home made guillotine, when the NHS refused to do it. I thought oooh I wonder if that works with tits too.
I am currently a 42H and was one early developer, my first bra was a 30DD and i weighed 8 stone, I was 5'9 and 10 years old!!!! Freaky huh. So I know no amount of weight loss is going to bring them to the size I want (truthfully a totally flat chest would be ideal).

AIBU to think that considering they weight 2 1/2 stone on there own that I could get them reduced.

[Thisjustinno]

What's your BMI? They won't operate if it's too high I imagine.

[welshweasel]

It's very difficult to get a reduction on the NHS. As well as fulfilling lots of clinical need criteria you'd need a BMI close to 25 (it was 27 when I did these). A 30DD is not massive at all (although by suggesting you need to be a size 8 again). Why do you want a totally flat chest? Not many women would want that and you'd not find a surgeon that would give you one. Are there other issues here?

[OopsDearyMe]

I posted too soon, I forgot to add that I suffer from radiculitis which causes mobility issues and is made worse by the weight on my frontage. All I am ever told is that if ilose weight they will get smaller, and I know they will,but I will still need a reduction anyway, so why waste time? Help the radiculitis and make me more able to move and therefore excerise.

Seems daft, its the same when done privately so I am not just trying to get it free.

[SolomanDaisy]

Given that your self image is so bad that you'd rather have no breasts, you'd probably be better off investing in counselling to deal with that.

[OopsDearyMe]

I do have an issue with the attention you get by having this size. I am on dating apps and as soon as guys see my top half all I get are sleazebags. I would not really want to be flat i don't think, I just get so fed up with lugging them about and never being able to find nice, comfortable support.

[OopsDearyMe]

Yeah my BMI is currently an awful 45

[Gudgyx]

There is very very strict guidelines on getting a breast reduction on the NHS. I'm a 34JJ and looked into it a few years ago, absolutely no chance.

They will tell you to lose weight first (if you need to) and see if you still need the reduction then.

I have spoken to people who have had it done, and they've had to go to the GP crying, in distress etc on numerous occasions, then be referred on to some sort of counsellor to go over the same sort of details before even being put forward for it.

Very long process with no guarantee of the outcome you are looking for. Quite frankly, I couldn't be arsed. They don't bother me that much anymore, have had too many operations I actually need to go through another for mostly cosmetic purposes.

[OopsDearyMe]

Oh and 30DD is huge on a 10 year old, and its big for a first set.

[Bluntness100]

I think with a Bmi of 45 it may be a moot question, as the aneasthetia risks will possibly prevent anyone proceeding with the surgery at this stage.

I'd focus on losing weight and when you get to a bmi of under 30 then you may have more success. Sorry, 💐

[Isadora2007]

By my calculations you are a few stones over 20stones... no surgeon would even consider non essential surgery at that weight sorry.

From what you've said I would strongly urge you to seek counselling. Early puberty can have a serious and long term effect on our relationships with our bodies and it sounds like yours was particularly rapid and significant.
when doing my counselling training we had a very powerful exercise to do which highlighted my issues very clearly for me which stem from early puberty.
Pm me if you like. Xx

[SarcasmMode]

Eh I know how you mean my bra size is 38E/F and I feel very self conscious. BMI of 31.3.

Tbf I'm going to lose some weight and hope the breasts go down a bit. The things are a menace. I'm breastfeeding but that's just raised an E to an F.

My first bra at 10 was a B or C. Been. A D at very lowest 13-16. After that it's been a D/E combo. I'm 5ft so it's very noticeable.

Feel for you OP.

It's not something you could just hide.

[lubeybooby]

Yes YABU - diet is vastly more important and effective than exercise for weight loss. like 80% diet 20% exercise and that only need be to generally keep moving/walking for 30 mins a few times a week. even I can do that with 40H norks. Get the weight more under control first and then see about the reduction, then when you've recovered from that you can step the exercise up

[FabulouslyGlamourousFerret]

I approached a private surgeon when my BMI was 36 for an uplift/reduction and they wouldn't even take my money until my BMI was under 30!!

[amusedbush]

I'm a 34GG and I'd sell my granny for a nice, neat handful but I'm also four stones overweight and I'm sure they would be much smaller at a healthy weight.

I don't think you've any chance of getting the surgery at the moment, I'm afraid.

[OopsDearyMe]

The problem is it's not just a matter of eating less and exercising more, as currently I use a walker just to do the school run. I a felt my eating habits need to change. Butim in a catch 22 I need to lose weight to improve my mobility but need to move to lose weight. This is why I am saying it would kick start things... And its not much better but I'm 18st 12

[ItsLikeRainOnYourWeddingDay]

You can still lose weight without any exercise. Counting calories is effective and it works as long as you don't cheat.
You would be a fool to undergo such a massive operation and a general anaesthetic with your bmi.

[Cherryskypie]

When you lose a lot of weight your breasts will deflate. You'll have loose skin. You'll probably want a surgical lift. It would make sense to only operate once.

[JackShit]

You don't want a flat chest, trust me. Just as many psychological issues and not deemed attractive/womanly by society/most men.

[GirlsonFilm]

No chance at all on the NHS until you bmi is 25ish, and with a bmi of 45 the anesthetic risk would make it too risky for any reputable surgeon to do the surgery.

Sorry that's probably not what you want to hear.

[Out2pasture]

Although i understand how your breasts affect your mobility, back pain, posture etc. the procedure is still considered cosmetic.
A cosmetic surgeon would want his work to look professional and nicely done.
Having the surgery first and loosing weight afterwards would change the shape of the breasts and the position of the nipples. Ruining the work done.
Focus on getting to a healthy sustainable weight for you and get the work done privately.

[Wolfiefan]

Weight loss is much more about what you eat than the exercise you do. Exercise helps. But unless you are a marathon runner you will never burn thousands of extra calories.
They can't do the surgery until you lose weight.

[Rockclimbingtigger]

YABU OP I'm afraid.

I'm one of the few people who have managed to get funded on the NHS and they wouldn't even discuss it unless my BMI was close to 25. I got down to 9 stone and had to jump through a lot of hoops with psychology to prove I was affected by the size but also emotionally stable enough that I didn't think the surgery would fix everything.

It was a big op and there isn't an anaesthetist who would operate with a BMI of 45. I'm sorry but the risk of complications is too high (I'm also a nurse).

You need to get your weight down (I used to find swimming good as it didn't require a sports bra!) and then proceed from there.

I wish you the best of luck - I was a 32M and am now a 34DD. I would have the op again tomorrow despite having a lot of complications with infections post op.

xx

[amusedbush]

You absolutely don't need to move to lose weight. I'm on a meal replacement VLCD (not a popular thing to do, I know!) and in five weeks I've gone from 16st 7 to 14st 10 with no exercise and no hunger. It's a process weaning myself back onto a normal diet but I know people who have kept several stones off for years after these diets.

[amusedbush]

It will be a process*