I have a neighbour on her 70's who has become a good friend.
I used to go over every Sunday for a few hours to keep her company as she cannot get out due to lack of buses.
She has been ill recently. The first time, her DS and family happened to be visiting, and got the keys from me to get in as she was confused and could not unlock the door for him. I went over and made the decision to phone an ambulance, she was in hospital a few days.
I then visited twice a day, on her discharge as I did not think she should be home. DS then text me asking me to check on her a few hours earlier as he had phoned and she did not sound right. I ran over, nothing on my feet (my own fault in my haste) and she needed an ambulance! The hospital got fined as it was a quick readmission after discharge. She stayed a couple of weeks next time.
I gradually reduced my visits to an hour every evening, then 2-3 hours on Sat and Sun.
She has been home a while this time and on Friday was not great. She had had a TIA, while I was there, but recovered quickly and said she did not want an ambulance. They would have assessed her and found her ok and left anyway! I did check on her later by phone, then Sat morning. Also, as usual Sat night.
Sunday I got a phone call from her niece and a text from her DS saying that she was not well and could I check on her, which I did! I found a trail of destruction, where she had been dropping stuff and she had a dropped lip, slurred speech and confusion, so I called an ambulance!
They came and took her to hospital, all good. I have her dog, I sorted her house (turned off heating, washed up dishes, cleaned up mess).
I have not had an update from her DS, her next of kin since. I made a point of ringing all her family, including her DS, when the ambulance took her away.
AIBU to want to text (our normal form of contact) a text stating my disappointment in lack of news? I know she has been moved to ITU and is stable, but that is all they will tell me as a non relative.
I am so upset and frustrated that I have not been told all that is going on!
They rely on me to look after her, surely they should let me know!
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To think I should at least have a text as an update?
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MammaTJ · 12/12/2016 21:58
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