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AIBU?

To stop sending money to ungrateful brats???

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ThePeoplesChamp · 12/12/2016 20:49

Every year I've sent Christmas money to my neices and nephews. Last 2 years I've reduced this slightly as it was costing me a fortune at the £ per kid. Close to £400 just on this part of Chistmas.

There is a view that because I work and the parents dont, and that I dont have kids that I am 'posh' ...... and, as such should be simply thrilled at handing over the money.

But heres the rub, in the 10+ years I've been doing this I've yet to receive so much as a thank you or even a Christmas card in return. And - its almost become a 'demand' - I remember one night having to leave a (pre)Christmas meal out to dash out to give my DB the money as 'the kids would like it early so they can buy what theyd like' he literally rang and rang and rang until I left the restaurant to stroppily hand over £100 for his kids.

I've been with DH 4 years and half of the nieces and neplhews have ever met him, such is their lack of interest at seeing us unless its to collect ££.

WIBU to just stay at home with DH, leave the ££ in the bank and sod the lot of them?

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pullingmyhairout1 · 12/12/2016 20:50

No. How damn rude.

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JellyBelli · 12/12/2016 20:50

YANBU.

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Fishcakey · 12/12/2016 20:50

Quite frankly no!

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KondosSecretJunkRoom · 12/12/2016 20:51

No. Don't give a gift to anyone you dislike.

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hesterton · 12/12/2016 20:51

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sparechange · 12/12/2016 20:52

God yes! I came on here to question you calling them brats but they sound ungrateful

Perhaps a card, with a note to say you've made a donation to a children's charity in their name. If it's questioned, you can say you never received a word of thanks so assumed they didn't actually want the money

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AnneLovesGilbert · 12/12/2016 20:52

Cheeky sods! It's your money, you enjoy it Smile

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MinesAGin · 12/12/2016 20:52

You must be mad for doing that. Don't do it any more - you have our permission to stop immediately!

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sparechange · 12/12/2016 20:52

God yes as in yes do that
Not as in yes Yabu

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pasturesgreen · 12/12/2016 20:52

You're a better person than me, OP. I would have stopped years ago. £100 and not even a thank you? Ffs!

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littlefirtree · 12/12/2016 20:53

YANBUWine

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elQuintoConyo · 12/12/2016 20:53

Take a photo of you handing £400 over to the assistant in Louis Vuitton #treatingmyself # becauseican #loadsamoney

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VeryBitchyRestingFace · 12/12/2016 20:54

It sounds more as if it's the parents who are the problem than the kids.

But yes, stop giving.

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Loaferloveforyou · 12/12/2016 20:54

Sod that!

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Nineloves1 · 12/12/2016 20:55

Yanbu.

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PicardsCombOver · 12/12/2016 20:55

Shock yanbu. Keep the money and treat yourself and DH to lovely thoughtful gifts that you've deserved all this time. How awful.

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FrancisCrawford · 12/12/2016 20:55

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4men1lady · 12/12/2016 20:55

Can't blame the kids as much as your brother!! Cheeky fucker, that would of been the last time I'd be handing over money to them.

Also, are you sure it's going to your nieces and nephews? Or is your brother normally that demanding?

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Butterymuffin · 12/12/2016 20:57

If someone had rung me repeatedly to demand I handed over 'Christmas money' I'd have said 'One more call and you'll get nothing from me ever again'. YANBU.

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Champagneformyrealfriends · 12/12/2016 20:57

Do what sparechange suggested.

And don't feel bad about it-you're not a bloody cash point.

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Nicpem1982 · 12/12/2016 20:57

Yanbu that's so rude unacceptably so

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Madbengalmum · 12/12/2016 20:57

Why are you wasting your hard earned money on such ungrateful gits?

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MistyMinge · 12/12/2016 20:58

Bloody hell I'd have stopped ages ago. How old are they? Get them a chocolate selection box insteadGrin

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Ohdearducks · 12/12/2016 20:58

They've learned their manners (or lack there of) from their parents. How fucking rude. Keep your money OP don't waste it on ungrateful people, absolutely shameful treatment from your own family.

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