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To stop sending money to ungrateful brats???

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ThePeoplesChamp Mon 12-Dec-16 20:49:22

Every year I've sent Christmas money to my neices and nephews. Last 2 years I've reduced this slightly as it was costing me a fortune at the £ per kid. Close to £400 just on this part of Chistmas.

There is a view that because I work and the parents dont, and that I dont have kids that I am 'posh' ...... and, as such should be simply thrilled at handing over the money.

But heres the rub, in the 10+ years I've been doing this I've yet to receive so much as a thank you or even a Christmas card in return. And - its almost become a 'demand' - I remember one night having to leave a (pre)Christmas meal out to dash out to give my DB the money as 'the kids would like it early so they can buy what theyd like' he literally rang and rang and rang until I left the restaurant to stroppily hand over £100 for his kids.

I've been with DH 4 years and half of the nieces and neplhews have ever met him, such is their lack of interest at seeing us unless its to collect ££.

WIBU to just stay at home with DH, leave the ££ in the bank and sod the lot of them?

pullingmyhairout1 Mon 12-Dec-16 20:50:27

No. How damn rude.

JellyBelli Mon 12-Dec-16 20:50:31


Fishcakey Mon 12-Dec-16 20:50:39

Quite frankly no!

KondosSecretJunkRoom Mon 12-Dec-16 20:51:33

No. Don't give a gift to anyone you dislike.

hesterton Mon 12-Dec-16 20:51:44

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

sparechange Mon 12-Dec-16 20:52:09

God yes! I came on here to question you calling them brats but they sound ungrateful

Perhaps a card, with a note to say you've made a donation to a children's charity in their name. If it's questioned, you can say you never received a word of thanks so assumed they didn't actually want the money

AnneLovesGilbert Mon 12-Dec-16 20:52:15

Cheeky sods! It's your money, you enjoy it smile

MinesAGin Mon 12-Dec-16 20:52:20

You must be mad for doing that. Don't do it any more - you have our permission to stop immediately!

sparechange Mon 12-Dec-16 20:52:51

God yes as in yes do that
Not as in yes Yabu

pasturesgreen Mon 12-Dec-16 20:52:58

You're a better person than me, OP. I would have stopped years ago. £100 and not even a thank you? Ffs!

littlefirtree Mon 12-Dec-16 20:53:16


elQuintoConyo Mon 12-Dec-16 20:53:35

Take a photo of you handing £400 over to the assistant in Louis Vuitton #treatingmyself # becauseican #loadsamoney

VeryBitchyRestingFace Mon 12-Dec-16 20:54:13

It sounds more as if it's the parents who are the problem than the kids.

But yes, stop giving.

Loaferloveforyou Mon 12-Dec-16 20:54:31

Sod that!

Nineloves1 Mon 12-Dec-16 20:55:02


PicardsCombOver Mon 12-Dec-16 20:55:41

shock yanbu. Keep the money and treat yourself and DH to lovely thoughtful gifts that you've deserved all this time. How awful.

FrancisCrawford Mon 12-Dec-16 20:55:42

10 years without a word of thanks?

You are a saint. And they are ungrateful little horrors. The parents are even worse.

Definitely stop.

4men1lady Mon 12-Dec-16 20:55:53

Can't blame the kids as much as your brother!! Cheeky fucker, that would of been the last time I'd be handing over money to them.

Also, are you sure it's going to your nieces and nephews? Or is your brother normally that demanding?

Butterymuffin Mon 12-Dec-16 20:57:12

If someone had rung me repeatedly to demand I handed over 'Christmas money' I'd have said 'One more call and you'll get nothing from me ever again'. YANBU.

Champagneformyrealfriends Mon 12-Dec-16 20:57:14

Do what sparechange suggested.

And don't feel bad about it-you're not a bloody cash point.

Nicpem1982 Mon 12-Dec-16 20:57:52

Yanbu that's so rude unacceptably so

Madbengalmum Mon 12-Dec-16 20:57:55

Why are you wasting your hard earned money on such ungrateful gits?

MistyMinge Mon 12-Dec-16 20:58:22

Bloody hell I'd have stopped ages ago. How old are they? Get them a chocolate selection box insteadgrin

Ohdearducks Mon 12-Dec-16 20:58:39

They've learned their manners (or lack there of) from their parents. How fucking rude. Keep your money OP don't waste it on ungrateful people, absolutely shameful treatment from your own family.

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