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Home Educators - I need your collective experience

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BantyCustards Fri 02-Dec-16 19:33:17

I'm in court in 2 weeks for a final hearing - my ex-partner is trying to force my pre-schooler into school.

Would you follow the link and give me your advice?

user1477282676 Fri 02-Dec-16 21:08:22

Well....the child is his too. Why do your beliefs trump his?

drspouse Fri 02-Dec-16 21:10:10

I'm confused - if your DC is a preschooler how can they go to school?

BantyCustards Fri 02-Dec-16 22:33:56

Thank you for your stunning insight, user.

Drspouse - because our preschooler will in the not too distant future reach school age.

user1477282676 Fri 02-Dec-16 22:35:20

Yes...not at all! You're welcome. Whether you like it or not though, it is a fact. If my husband and I split up and we disagreed on education, he would have as much right as I to decide such an important issue. It's not your job alone.

Crunchymum Fri 02-Dec-16 22:35:34

I can't click on the link but can you surmise the reasons you want to home educate.

BantyCustards Fri 02-Dec-16 22:42:25

And the insight continues....

Yes, user. You are absolutely right. Which is why we are in the middle of a specific issues duspute.

Do you have any other insights? Perhaps a suggestion how we resolve our difference of opinion? Should I just roll over and let him have his way when I do not think it will be in the best interests of our child?

Lunar1 Fri 02-Dec-16 22:47:11

Is there an option for part time school, at least for early years then reassess the situation.

user1477282676 Fri 02-Dec-16 22:49:01

Well equally do you have any more detail!? You've asked for help but nobody knows a thing about the circumstances.

BantyCustards Fri 02-Dec-16 22:52:42

User, are you a home educator? If not I don't honestly see how you think you can help?

Thus far you have wasted time stating the obvious.

BantyCustards Fri 02-Dec-16 22:53:57

Lunar - there possibly is but the rub with that means that you have to follow the national curriculum as I understand it.

brasty Fri 02-Dec-16 22:54:17

I followed the link, there is still no real detail.

longdiling Fri 02-Dec-16 22:54:20

Perhaps if you'd bothered to reply to the person on your original post they would have offered you even more advice and others would have followed suit. Now you've posted in AIBU you are going to end up having to defend your choice to home educate - perhaps you could use that as practice though!

brasty Fri 02-Dec-16 22:55:04

What is your ex arguing?

StStrattersOfMN Fri 02-Dec-16 22:55:59

Well, having HE both DDs, I was going to comment, but as you're being rather obnoxious to user, I'm not going to bother. She's right, your wishes don't trump your XH's, and I really cba to c&p your link with an attitude like that.

user1477282676 Fri 02-Dec-16 22:57:18

I home educated for some time OP yes. My children are 12 and 8 and they were taught by me for a year.

BantyCustards Fri 02-Dec-16 22:57:53

Long - if the person who had replied to my post in the education forum had replied before I posted here in AIBU I would have replied to them.

The education forum is quiet - I am on limited time. I posted here for traffic.

My thread specifies that I'm asking for help from fellow home educators. I am in no way responsible who decides to post what on this thread.

Does that clarify things for you?

ItsAllGoingToBeFine Fri 02-Dec-16 22:58:35

Does your ex have parental responsibility? What sort of access does he have to DC?

What are your issues with mainstream schooling and his with home edding?

BantyCustards Fri 02-Dec-16 22:59:12

Great user - hope it was a positive experience.

I'm asking for help - do you have anything useful to add?

user1477282676 Fri 02-Dec-16 23:01:47

Well Banty it's impossible to add anything useful as all you're doing is attacking people. When you've explained the circumstances, then I MIGHT have something useful to others might.

Answer the questions It'sAllGoingToBeFine asked and we will be able to help!

BantyCustards Fri 02-Dec-16 23:01:52


I did not say my wishes trumped my ex-partner's.

You are free to post wherever you want to just as I am free to reply to members who are just wanting to be goady.

BantyCustards Fri 02-Dec-16 23:03:38

I didn't attack you, user.

You accused me of believing my wishes trumped his - we simply don't agree so we are using court to help us resolve the issue.

I asked for help, not having the obvious stated.

ItsAllGoingToBeFine Fri 02-Dec-16 23:03:49

Ok. Have read other thread. The judge will want to do what is best for the DC, not what is best for you or exDP.

You need to be able to explain, with reference to your child, why Home Edding is the right choice for them. You need to explain why mainstream schooling is not the best choice for your DC. You will also need to be able to show how you are going to provide your child with a full education that will not disadvantage him compared to his peers.

StStrattersOfMN Fri 02-Dec-16 23:07:35

User wasn't goady, it's a perfectly relevant fact that your XH has as much right to decide on his child's education as you do. You, on the other hand, appear to have rather an attitude problem.

BantyCustards Fri 02-Dec-16 23:08:30


I already home educate eldest DC - have done for nearly 3 years. It's gone well.

Ex was all for youngest DC to follow suit but now that I have left him he has changed his mind.

I can't give more information really. All I'm looking for are links to anything that may be useful - articles, research etc etc.

I'm pretty much out of steam right now and though the power of MN may be useful.

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