I had my 5 day post CS check today with the midwife. DD is in NICU as she was born at 29+5 but doing ok. All was fine until the last question - 'how are things at home?' I said they were fine then talked about how my mum has been doing some cleaning, and we have decided that DH will wait to take his paternity leave until DD is going to be home, but is WFH this week so he is around to support me, and be able to see DD.
Midwife looked a bit confused. She turned to the front of my notes and showed me a highlighted yellow tick, and said 'are you aware of the tick system we use?' I had noticed it but had no idea what it meant. She said it is the signal they use to indicate the woman has reported incidences of domestic violence, and asked me if I had ever reported anything. I said categorically not, that I had been asked the standard question at the booking appointment, but had said no, and that I had not reported anything since, and had never needed to.
The midwife was very apologetic, and she scribbled over the tick whilst explaining to me why the system was so important (which I do of course understand). At the time I laughed it off as a silly mistake, but the more I have thought about it, the more it has upset me.
I was thinking about nurses on the antenatal ward, or at any other point seeing my DH with me and judging him as abusive. I was also thinking about what if it had been the other way round, and the tick wasn't on someone's file where it was really needed. I think I need to speak to the NICU staff to make sure nothing has been recorded there, which seems awful.
So, would I be unreasonable to send an email to the local PALs for this to be investigated further? Or do I just let it go as midwife apologised and will probably look into it further anyway. My hormones and emotions are all over the place today, so I can't work it out. I haven't mentioned it to DH as I think he will be really upset, and he has been so wonderful over a really difficult 5 days.
Sorry this is so long. What do you all think?
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Witch91 · 29/11/2016 21:37
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