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Aibu to think there was no need for gp to me feel like a fool for going in?

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rainrainrainrainmorerain Tue 29-Nov-16 17:21:00

I took my dd to the doctors today about her eye it's a long story but I wrote a post on here I can't figure out how to get a link on my phone but I posted a picture (see below)

Anyway I saw my gp and he immediately dismissed it as conjunctivitis and nothing needed to be done which is fine but he was so condescending he started asking me who helped me at home and did I have help with the kids implying that I was wrong to bring her In.

I actually feel quite upset now!

Aibu there was no need for the speech about having help was there?

I shouldn't be made to feel foolish for getting it checked ?

Jacquinta Tue 29-Nov-16 17:21:42

You never fuck about with eyes. YANBU

lostoldlogin2 Tue 29-Nov-16 17:23:03

I would have taken her in! Her eye looks very sore! You did right.

OlennasWimple Tue 29-Nov-16 17:23:54

Of course you should have taken her in, but perhaps he was worried that you needed additional support at home so asked some standard questions to find out more about your situation?

NavyandWhite Tue 29-Nov-16 17:25:03

Honestly? I agree with the GP, sorry.
A quick call in at the pharmacy would have freed a much needed appointment at this time of year.

But he shouldn't have been rude tbf.

rainrainrainrainmorerain Tue 29-Nov-16 17:25:59

Navy I went to the walk in first they told me I had to take her to the gp.

mumonashoestring Tue 29-Nov-16 17:27:15

It may be standard practice to ask mums those questions at that practice. I went for a pill check at the local GUM clinic recently and was asked, very nicely and supportively, whether I ever felt scared of DH or experienced violence from him. I suspect they're just trying to give people who are struggling an opportunity to speak up. Some people just have a really unfortunate manner and can't help sounding condescending when trying to be nice...

NavyandWhite Tue 29-Nov-16 17:27:50

Oh you didn't say that in your OP. Did you tell the GP that?

Why didn't the walk in give her something for her conjunctivitis?

SVJAA Tue 29-Nov-16 17:28:02

Your GP sounds like a dick. YANBU at all.

5madthings Tue 29-Nov-16 17:28:16

Yanbu, are you bfeeding? Only breast milk is fab for sticky eyes, just treated my own conjunctivitis with my own milk.

And a pharmacy won't treat under twos, they will have just said to see gp as well.

chaplin1409 Tue 29-Nov-16 17:28:41

This is the main reason why I never took my daughter to the doctors many years ago about her eye they make you feel so rubbish. My daughter ended up in hospital for 3 nights with orbital cellulitis (not sure on spelling).

NavyandWhite Tue 29-Nov-16 17:29:45

Yeah that's right. GP the dick hmm

rainrainrainrainmorerain Tue 29-Nov-16 17:30:19

I did tell him - or tried to while he was going on about how "we end up treating nurseries not eyes" apparently they have to give prescriptions for conjunctivitis just so kids can go back to nursery quicker - I am a sahm she has never been to nursery hmm

The walk in didn't say anything apart from it could be an infection in her eyelid go to the gp.

ByeByeLilSebastian Tue 29-Nov-16 17:31:04

You couldn't take her to the pharmacist though as they won't treat under 2s.

Are you breastfeeding btw? A quick squirted of milk would sort her out.

DrQuinzel Tue 29-Nov-16 17:31:14

GP always asked me how I was getting on at home when DD was a baby until one day I crumbled and told her that DD wasn't really mine, that she had been replaced but I didn't know why but that I knew not to cross the road because someone was planning to run us over.

Turns out I had puerperal psychosis. Which would have got a whole lot worse had she not asked those (probably routine) questions.

Maybe they're told it's best practice to ask, maybe you seemed anxious, maybe I seemed "not right" that day.

Try to consider that their intentions were good.

rainrainrainrainmorerain Tue 29-Nov-16 17:31:22

No not breastfeeding anymore!

pilotswife Tue 29-Nov-16 17:33:29

I wouldn't have hesitated taking her to the GP and I'm a registered nurse. No way would I rely on a pharmacists opinion! Your GP should have been reassuring rather than making you feel foolish. I'd be looking for another family doctor. I hope your dd gets better soon.

NavyandWhite Tue 29-Nov-16 17:34:55

Well the GP didn't treat her either pilot.

Manumission Tue 29-Nov-16 17:35:55

Navy you're doing medical second opinions via MN!? For free? You're going to be swamped smile

SVJAA Tue 29-Nov-16 17:36:18

Navy that doesn't mean he shouldn't have treated her.

ZoFloMoFo Tue 29-Nov-16 17:36:57

He's enquired as to whether you have any help at home and you've taken that to mean he thinks you've wasted his time? confused

Perhaps you seemed a bit strung out and he was genuinely concerned about you?

NavyandWhite Tue 29-Nov-16 17:37:43

No not quite Manu wink but a GP felt it didn't warrant an appointment.

Natsku Tue 29-Nov-16 17:38:20

I would have taken a baby in with an eye looking like that but I agree that those might be standard questions to ask newish mums to give them a chance to say they need help, or things are bad at home, or they feel overly anxious.

rainrainrainrainmorerain Tue 29-Nov-16 17:38:45

Zoflo it's hard to describe but It was more the way he was asking rather than the actual words of that makes sense!

Thisjustinno Tue 29-Nov-16 17:38:52

It's good practice for a GP to ask how Mothers are managing at home and if they have help.

It's not something to take personally and I don't think he/she made you out to be a fool at all.

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