Daughter visiting Dad issue..

[mumto2two]

Just a quick background. I split with my ex when my eldest was 1..she is now 17 and we've always had a good warm relationship. Used to Christmas together etc and he always remained close to my family. All changed when he met his partner 4 years ago. DD has always felt pushed aside. She has two kids similar age and they don't get on at all. Both have massive issues, eating disorders and self harm etc. DD finds this terribly strange and has nothing in common with them. My ex bought a house for them to move in together..and they each got a room but DD was expected to share the daughter's bed when she goes to stay. Even though her son lives with the Dad and only stays occasionally, he was given his own room. This had always upset her. Prior to that her dad had a lovely girly bedroom for her and as we live nearby, she happily stayed with him as often as they liked. And she was happy. But since they moved in together, she has felt totally alienated, and now just refuses point blank to sleep in this girls bed at 17. So she's avoiding going to see her Dad now and I feel sad that things have changed this way. Should I say anything? DD won't talk to him about it as she thinks they are too wrapped up in each other to notice or care.

[Growingbeanno2]

Oh this is so sad but I think common.

I'd say, if you have a good relationship with him and feel able to had meaningful conversation with him, I'd talk to ex and see whether he has picked up on and if he can give her special time.