Half an AIBU, half a "not sure who's the weirdo here" - but really interested in whether other people's families do this...
DP's siblings have a habit of assuming they can stay with us and turning up, with bags, without asking first. I'm happy for them to stay - they live overseas, we live in London - but I think it's completely bizarre to just assume it's fine without asking first. This was a minor annoyance before we had a baby, but since we've had the boy (7mo now) it's been driving me mad. When the baby was 5mo DP's brother came and stayed for 3 nights without asking first (literally, he and his parents arrived for a lunch we'd arranged, and he brought his bags in and didn't say anything until DP asked why he was carrying a suitcase), and it was when DS was in a proper cluster-feeding-inconsolable-won't-go-down-till-midnight stage (in fact one night he didn't get in till 1am (he didn't have keys) and said "well I thought you'd still be up with the baby"...) This week sister in law has done the same (though without the inconsiderate late night!), she was planning to stay with her mum and dad but then when she arrived she said she was going to stay with us for the first few days instead. They each live abroad and when they come to the UK we always ask whether they're planning to stay with their parents, friends, hotel, us, but they tend to leave their plans open and make decisions at the last minute.
Anyway, this annoys DP as much as it annoys me, but he thinks it's pretty normal behaviour in families - just annoying normal behaviour. I think it's really, really weird! My family would never do it and it would be seen as incredibly rude if anyone did, especially with a newborn in the house.
So, do other people's families do this? Who's the weirdo here?!
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BowBelle81 · 29/11/2016 09:48
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