NC for this and it's long!
I'm in a quandary. My DH has wanted to be self employed for years and I have refused to entertain it, for reasons that will become clear. Whilst I obviously can't tell him what to do I told him that I would make the decision to leave the marriage if he did.
15 years ago my DH had 2 businesses liquidated within a few years of each other. Both were badly managed by him (although there were of course other factors) and both left us with significant debts which took us the next 10 years to repay.
We are finally free of that time but it was extraordinarily stressful- my DH had a breakdown and was hospitalised for a short time and I spent half the time having panic attacks.
He has never managed to work well for other people and has resented every moment of the years he has worked for someone else. It has provided a (low) wage and stability but he has been miserable and he has complained constantly and spoken about nothing else but working for himself, for all these years
He is now adamant that he will not be going back to work after Christmas
However. This is somewhat different in that he wants to be a self employed consultant rather than run a company. He says its 15 years on and he is older and has learnt a lot and matured.
Also, we both work FT and we have twins in FT childcare. It is very very hard to cope with us both commuting and I can't deny that him working from home would be hugely helpful and improve all
of our lives massively.
I am the breadwinner. He earns enough to cover childcare and that's it. However, this childcare will still need to be paid for so there are risks associated with him going it alone if he doesn't earn anything.
I am now wondering whether I am being churlish and making him miserable, and whether I should simply give in and agree a 3/6 months trial. For context I Believe it will be fairly easy for him to get a job after this time if it doesn't work out.
But, I don't really trust him to stick to any trial. I have a sneaking suspicion it will be stretched out and out because the reality is he doesn't want to go back to working for a company so why would he?
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Toastbutterandpreserves · 28/11/2016 09:36
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