DH had his work do a couple of weeks ago - no wives which didn't bother me as I couldn't have gone anyway due to childcare for our two SN DC.
I was chatting on the net to a couple of friends of mine, also mums who are full-time carers to SN DC who don't get out much and mentioned it. We jokingly suggested that we should have our own "work xmas do", which in the end boiled down to us planning to go out for lunch together at some point on a weekday when our kids are at school.
Told DH about it yesterday and he was really annoyed with me. He thought it was really offensive to him that I had told my friends he had gone out without me, and that I had implied to them that he doesn't consider what I do to be work by calling it a "work xmas do" as a joke.
DH doesn't really like me chatting to these friends online, if I'm honest. He often makes little barbed remarks about it, but these women have been a lifeline to me, so I'm not going to stop. I don't get out much and all my non-SN friends have faded away really. DH himself works long hours and a lot of evenings until very late at night sometimes, and I miss adult conversation and these women really "get it".
But he thinks we sit around slagging our husbands off, I think. Which we have actually never done. I offered for him to read our conversation to see for himself, but he turned me down.
So AIBU and insulting to him by arranging a "work xmas do" when it technically isn't? After he said this it kind of soured our day and I am still cross with him, which he noticed and asked me why I was "in a mood", which he knows I hate.
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To wonder how this could possibly have offended DH?
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SidseBabettKnudsen · 28/11/2016 09:27
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