DS is 3.5. Our nanny has been with us for 2.5 years.
Obviously DS doesn't get a huge amount of mail but now that he is at kindergarten he's getting more party invitations and info from the school, either posted or handed out at school. She does pick up/ drop off 4 days per week.
I'm getting increasingly annoyed that she is constantly opening envelopes addressed to DS. I just feel this is overstepping the mark. She's his nanny, not his guardian. Examples over the last two weeks have included:
- one thank you card for a birthday gift received;
- letter from school telling us about DS' part in the nativity and what costume is needed (in book bag with DS' name on front, not ours)
- parcel from my DM containing an advent calendar for DS (this was actually put away and not mentioned to me until a week later when I found it); and
- a party invitation.
Other than the parcel (where we didn't acknowledge or thank DM for the gift for ages) there is no real consequence of her doing this. It just feels like an intrusion and I feel that as his parents we should be first to read/ find out these things. AIBU and WIBU to say something and ask her not to do this going forward or should I just take the view that as it does no real harm I should just get over it?