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To feel upset and go think my friend has read more into this concerns my husband...

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Dickorydockwhatthe Sun 27-Nov-16 13:56:44

After a few drinks on a night out with a few girlfriends my friend made a big deal out of something that happened a few months ago when my dh gave her a lift home. The way she built it up in front of every one I honestly thought she was going to say my dh tried it on with her up I was expecting my world to come crashing down. Any way when she finally spits it out she said that my dh had drove the wrong direction going the opposite way to where she lives until she pointed out and reminded him that he was going the wrong way. The thing is the direction he was going was where another friend lives and also where my son has tuition so it was a silly mistake as far I'm concerned. He took a right turning instead of going straight and continued on that route until she corrected him by which point he was obviously thinking he was going some where else on auto pilot.The thing is she knows we have been having problems and that I confided in her that he was messaging a female work colleague everyday which I wasn't happy about but we sorted. I just feel upset tbh that she would read more into that. She has only been staying at her parents as recently split with her dh so he has only bee their a few times. Now I feel nervous about her being near my dh in case she reads into it.

WussyWat Sun 27-Nov-16 14:06:23

So she thinks he deliberately took her the wrong way to what? Spend more time with her? Have his wicked way down a country lane?

I'd have just said something like "oh friend, stop being daft and get over yourself he is just used to going that way so often and was on autopilotconfused"

How strange of her to bring it up like that. At least he won't be needing to take her home again as it'd obviously make her feel so awkward wink

PaperdollCartoon Sun 27-Nov-16 14:08:41

YANBU , she is being odd

TotallyOuting Sun 27-Nov-16 14:09:10

The thing is she knows we have been having problems and that I confided in her that he was messaging a female work colleague everyday which I wasn't happy about but we sorted. I just feel upset tbh that she would read more into that. She has only been staying at her parents as recently split with her dh so he has only bee their a few times. Now I feel nervous about her being near my dh in case she reads into it.

If she was genuinely reading that into it then it sounds like wishful thinking due to wanting some attention. But it also sounds like she might just be a bad friend telling a scandalous story for laughs at your expense.

JellyBelli Sun 27-Nov-16 14:09:27

I would say 'I think you read too much into things', and chaperone her around DH in future.

normastits5 Sun 27-Nov-16 14:11:38

What a bitch . Think I would have to have a chat with her along the lines of " I'm not sure what you were getting at but you made me feel really uncomfortable. Especially since I confided in you recently. " see what replies and take it from there

Trifleorbust Sun 27-Nov-16 14:28:58

What is she implying? Weird.

Dickorydockwhatthe Sun 27-Nov-16 14:40:35

Thanks for the reassurance guys. She said she had been keeping it from me for a while as didn't want to upset me or for it to end our friendship. I mean yes it was odd of him to go a different route but no doubt she was chatting and it was a Friday evening so he prob didn't even realise until she said. why she took a while to correct him I don't know. I havent said anything to dh as he would be mortified. It I definitely won't be leaving him in that situation again. She know i have had trust issues with him before so but I honestly do not believe he would have been planning anything sinister.surely if he was he would have just tried it on not driven her the wrong way :-/

slenderisthenight Sun 27-Nov-16 14:43:52

Dangerous friend.

DixieWishbone Sun 27-Nov-16 14:47:17

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Trifleorbust Sun 27-Nov-16 14:48:34

Are you absolutely sure that is the whole story? She sounds insane. I would just have asked her outright what she thinks was happening.

pictish Sun 27-Nov-16 14:49:34

I don't understand.

DailyFaily Sun 27-Nov-16 14:50:33

Well it's a total non-story isn't it. Man takes wrong turn, friend corrects him, he turns car around and takes her home without incident. I think I would have been very bemused at that story to say the least and said 'and what happened next? Did he breathe in and then out again? Or something else utterly mundane that no else would even notice, let alone comment on, happen?'.

Reminds me of the time an acquaintance of mine made a big fuss about telling me about a time my OH had flirted with another woman fifteen years previously- I mean who has time to give a shit about this stuff?!

Finola1step Sun 27-Nov-16 14:53:30

Dangerous friend.
^this is spot on.

She's up to something. Maybe she likes to play silly games without even fully realising what she is doing. At best, she's got issues with attention seeking behaviour.

Keep her at arm's length for now. And don't put your dh in a position where she could make up all sorts.

LunaLoveg00d Sun 27-Nov-16 14:53:47

Man gets lost in car is hardly an earth shattering revelation.

SnowmanEnvy Sun 27-Nov-16 14:55:48

I think you need to mention it to your DH though, firstly to see what actually happened and gauge his reaction and so he is aware incase anyone tried to bring it up at least he won't be on the back foot.

I wouldn't put it past this friend to tell others about your recent issues with DH. In future tell her nothing. I'd also ask her why she was bothered about telling you as to you it sounds like nothing!

Unless she's not telling you everything?

0phelia Sun 27-Nov-16 14:57:25

It reminds me a bit of this. A female friend of my then boyfriend, made a massively huge deal out of the following situation. It invloved lots of high pitched laughing, ridiculing and loudly repeating of the story in front of my boyfriend and all his friends.

Here's what happened. I worked in a pub, she got a drink and i gave her the wrong change. I apologised and then gave her the right change.

You'd have thought I'd dropped the till on her from the way she hyped up the story. Most ppl thought she was bonkers, because she was.

There's no deal not even a big deal here, OP.

Dickorydockwhatthe Sun 27-Nov-16 15:57:49

Thanks everyone I know you are all right. I just feel a bit upset about it as even when I brushed it off saying that's just him and I asked if he tried anything and she said no so she kept saying but he drove me all the way here towards blah blah as if it was a big deal.

FestiveNC Sun 27-Nov-16 16:04:58

She sounds like she is trying to undermine your relationship. Bloody stupid thing for someone wanting lifts to do!

deloresclaiborne Sun 27-Nov-16 16:39:27

sounds to me like she's shit stirring, she's trying to put the idea into your head that your dh is interested in her.
be very careful op she split up with her dp and she might want you to do the same so she not alone iyswim
you know the old saying
misery likes company (or something like that)

OlennasWimple Sun 27-Nov-16 16:41:51

She sounds a bit bonkers TBH

Crisscrosscranky Sun 27-Nov-16 16:45:09

I did this with one of my DH's friends a few weeks back. I thought I knew a shortcut and actually ended up down a dead end backing onto some woods. I thought the worst that would happen is they'd laugh about my shit sense of direction but now I'm worried he thinks I'm a grade 1 sex pest grin

Darthvadersmuuuum Sun 27-Nov-16 16:49:23

She sounds like a drama llama confused

Keeptrudging Sun 27-Nov-16 16:50:37

Driving the wrong way is standard for my DH, your friend is being very weird.

donquixotedelamancha Sun 27-Nov-16 18:15:01

I once drove halfway to my old house (10 mile out of the way) because a friend was wittering in the passenger seat. My friend managed not to assume he was about to be jumped on.

She's an idiot.

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