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juicypineapple Sun 27-Nov-16 01:52:09

DD has additional needs and has not been invited to a party since she was in reception. For the record she is not unkind or badly behaved she just spends a lot of time alone and although she has always had people she has played on and off with when younger of sorts she has never been close enough to anyone to be invited since whole class parties stopped.

Now 14 she has very very slowly but steadily become part of a group of children at school and for the first time actually seems to have proper friends although it is more she has been included and enveloped within a group of confident children who seem to have taken her on.

DD has got a party invitation from one of the teens in her friendship group. She is so excited bless her. The party is a roller disco. DD goes for comfort rather than style usually due to sensory issues and literally has nothing that isn't leggings or trainers or suitable for a party!

She is desperate to not look out of place and so wants me to ask what kind of things your teens would wear to a roller disco party.

I have name changed btw purely because I have discussed her past school issues, exh issues and health fairly extensively on Mumsnet and don't want it linked if someone recognises us in RL


NapQueen Sun 27-Nov-16 01:56:28

If she is comfy in leggings and it's a roller skating party then I'd suggest leggings and a longer top, maybe with a bit of a print on it. Trainers fine too as she'll only be wearing them to and from the venue.

NapQueen Sun 27-Nov-16 01:58:40

Something like this over black leggings?

LadyHonoriaDedlock Sun 27-Nov-16 01:59:07

My teen dd wears casual clothes for roller skating - you have to protect legs and arms and not leave them bare in case of falling. Leggings and trainers sound perfect.

CouldIHaveIt Sun 27-Nov-16 02:01:48

Oh that's great, I'm made up for her 💐

I think it being a roller disco is a bit of a blessing as it narrows down the options a bit.

IF DD didn't have sensory issues I'd say a nice pair of jeans and a trendy tshirt. However, if she Is comfortable in leggings /jeggins and a long enough top to cover her bum then that would be perfect I'm sure.

Can she not ask one or two of the others what they're planning on wearing?

Rainbowqueeen Sun 27-Nov-16 02:04:55

Leggings sound perfect to me

I hope she has a wonderful time!

PerspicaciaTick Sun 27-Nov-16 02:04:58

My DD and her friends all seem to permanently wear leggings and T-shirts with a checked shirt over the top and trainers/converse-style shoes.

Sounds like your DD would fit right in with them.

Bogeyface Sun 27-Nov-16 02:48:32

Could you afford to take her shopping for something new and ask her if she would like one of her friends to come with her? That way she and her friend can choose something together that will be fashionable and she wont feel out of place.

DD is 14 and would wear jeans or jeggings, but leggings would be fine too, with a longish tshirt/tunic and converse type trainers. Little bit of make up too.

Bogeyface Sun 27-Nov-16 02:50:02

Oh and a long sloppy jumper/cardi to wear home as they will be really cold after working up a sweat skating!

alleypalley Sun 27-Nov-16 02:57:26

My dd would definitely not wear a dress. She lives in leggings or skinny jeans with a t-shirt or hoody.

Emmageddon Sun 27-Nov-16 03:31:19

My 2 daughters live in leggings and t-shirts. Party wear would be a t-shirt with a bit of sparkle grin

Hope your lovely DD has a fabulous time!

LindyHemming Sun 27-Nov-16 03:54:49

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Bogeyface Sun 27-Nov-16 04:00:12

Party wear would be a t-shirt with a bit of sparkle

We own a (note the singular!) party Tshirt that the 2 middle girls share grin The older one wears it as a fitted top, the other as a tunic. Its a silvery grey next one my sister bought the older one a few years ago, covered in sequins. It goes over the same jeans and leggings!

I was a teen in the 80's when wearing jeans as going out clothes only really became a thing later on in the decade. I wore some fucking shocking outfits, all dresses and all totally OTT, but as we all wore them it was ok.

Watch 1982 Top of the Pops on BBC Four to see the sort of shite we wore. Short ballgown type dresses at a disco ffs! grin

Toadinthehole Sun 27-Nov-16 04:17:36

No advice, but well done her, and I hope she has a great

UnbornMortificado Sun 27-Nov-16 04:21:50

Mines a bit younger but lives in leggings/jeans and T.shirts.

Topshop jeans seem to be v.popular or so I'm told. At £36 a pair I'm resigned too primark and charity shops till she leaves home.

UnbornMortificado Sun 27-Nov-16 04:22:27

Oh and I hope she has a lovely time bless her smile

Sptownmama Sun 27-Nov-16 06:04:57

Mine is 16 and lives in black leggings. She just bought herself a longline sleeveless black waistcoat for £8 from primark which she assures me is all the rage at the mo so that might be nice with a coloured long sleeve t and black leggings? Oh and yes converse or uggs is all she wears.

TasteLikeCherryChapstick Sun 27-Nov-16 06:14:06

I'd say black leggings, vest top, check shirt. Adidas allstars or converse seem to be the shoe of choice amongst DD's peers although mine prefers timberland style boots. Tbh, it seems to be more about the eyebrows than the clothes!!

As your DD knows about this thread wish her the best of luck from us smile

SharingMichelle Sun 27-Nov-16 06:15:21

Leggings and a tshirt with a zip up hoodie. It's what they all wear.

Cucumber5 Sun 27-Nov-16 06:25:51

I have a DD that age exactly. Just stretchy black high waited jeans from h and M. Then random baggy top from same shop.

Cucumber5 Sun 27-Nov-16 06:26:40

Leggings and a check shirt or plain shirt could work

GinIsIn Sun 27-Nov-16 06:27:42

I think for roller skating leggings sound fine, but if she wants to branch out a bit then maybe have a look at Topshop Joni jeans - they're very tight but soft and stretchy - more like denim leggings with a zip and button.

Foslady Sun 27-Nov-16 08:04:27

Would she wear jeggings Compromise between the two?

Sushiqueen Sun 27-Nov-16 08:09:59

My dd who is the same age lives in jeans and trainers. So what you daughter wears sounds fine. Dd says she would wear leggings and a longish top and some light makeup.

hopingforhappiness Sun 27-Nov-16 08:12:12

Primark superskinny jeans are a great alternative to topshop Joni jeans.
Plus a vest top and check shirt.
PP spot on about eyebrows; so long as they are "on fleek", leggings and a tshirt would be fine. grin
Enjoy seeing her blossom with her kind friends.

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