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Mymumiswatching Sat 26-Nov-16 13:38:52

I've NC'd for this as no doubt my mum will read it.

My mother took my 7year old daughter out to buy a Christmas party dress but came home with a black mini skirt and a top bearing more skin that I'd feel comfortable with on a teenager. Apparently my mother had "no choice" but to buy it because the 7year old didn't like anything else.

AIBU to think she could have said no to what is an entirely inappropriate outfit for a 7year old child?its not like my dd would have died without getting an outfit today.

And why is it that most shops can't do nice party dresses for girls beyond the age of 5? Aside from John Lewis, where is there that does age appropriate party dresses that aren't designed to sexualise and objectify young girls or turn them into a disney princess?

Aeroflotgirl Sat 26-Nov-16 13:43:37

I totally agree, could you not put thick tights u under the mini skirt. I was in H&M in the summer looking for shorts for dd9, and saw a rack of daisy dukes, going down to 3 years old, don't get me started in the belly tops🤔

clairethewitch70 Sat 26-Nov-16 13:46:45

Put a long or short sleeve tshirt on underneath too.

IminaPickle Sat 26-Nov-16 13:47:58

Disney Granny!

Mymumiswatching Sat 26-Nov-16 13:48:00

I should point out she's a big 7 and wears age 10 clothes but even ten year olds should have the choice of covering up.

aeroflotgirl h&m are one of the worst offenders

Mymumiswatching Sat 26-Nov-16 13:49:12

Iminapickle that's exactly what it is!

clairethewotch the top is too tight to get anything under it.

WLF46 Sat 26-Nov-16 13:50:30

I don't know what your mother was thinking, or what the shop was thinking offering it for sale for that matter.

Maybe she's just naive, thought it was a pretty outfit and did not think that there was anything inappropriate in it.

But you can't let her wear it.

Yoarchie Sat 26-Nov-16 13:51:49

There are usually decent dresses at mini Boden but they can be ££ (in which case buy big and wear lots of times).

She could have said no but then again, a granny is a granny not a parent. It's up to you to tell your dd that is is too cold to have that much bare flesh.

HallowedMimic Sat 26-Nov-16 13:52:20

Monsoon do lovely dresses. So do Trotters, if you happen to be near a branch.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties Sat 26-Nov-16 13:52:28

Does your dd want to wear a dress? A lot of girls at that age like leggings and a long line top. There are some really pretty long sleeved tunic tops about. Why not return the outfit if you don't like it?
I don't think there are many 7 year old girls these days that want to wear a party dress.

Mymumiswatching Sat 26-Nov-16 13:56:08

I've never heard of Trotters.

Dd doesn't like Boden anymore, she thinks it's babyish. I think some of their stuff is lovely.

My dd isn't a fan of long line tops and still loves swishy dresses she can twirl in. I think we'll quietly return the stuff and just head into John Lewis - it just annoys me that there are so few options of childlike clothing for girls. I remember thinking all the cute stuff ended when she grew out of an age 2 (at one) but it just gets worse the bigger they get sad

Think I'm going to learn to sew...

Sleeperandthespindle Sat 26-Nov-16 13:58:15

TK max often has great dresses. Also zulily but delivery waiting times can be lengthy.

Aeroflotgirl Sat 26-Nov-16 13:59:19

Next or Marks are quite good. I know, past 8, and the clothes for girls get ridiculous. The boys are nice and sensible and age appropriate. I was 😤 those daisy dukes for 3 years old my goodness!

hanwellfan Sat 26-Nov-16 14:00:10

Zara girls. I was doubtful but it's lovely, fashionable and largely age appropriate. I didn't see any skin bearing tight dresses recently- lots of trendy peasant frocks, jump suits and pinafores.

unicorn5629 Sat 26-Nov-16 14:03:22

misses point of thread... what are daisy dukes and "Disney granny" ? I need help keeping up with the lingo... !

Mymumiswatching Sat 26-Nov-16 14:04:16

Zara does have some lovely stuff but there isn't one near. As my dd is big we often have to actually try things on as we're never quite sure what size will fit her if we buy online. Fine if we could afford to buy a range of sizes to return the ones that don't fit but sadly we're not that well off.

Not a fan of Next or Marks lately. Both are really hit or miss and Next stuff is so ugh. She loves some of the younger girls things in next but they just wouldn't fit her.

IminaPickle Sat 26-Nov-16 14:07:43

Daisy Dukes are short denim shorts like daisy duke wore in dukes of hazard.
And Disney Granny was my coinage- like a Disney Dad, only wants to be there for you he fun stuff, not parenting.
Which is fairish enough as she's not a patent but still annoying for Mum who has to be the one saying no.

ChocoChou Sat 26-Nov-16 14:14:20

Was it from river island by any chance? They really have a lot of inappropriate clothes for young girls...!

allegretto Sat 26-Nov-16 14:35:17

YANBU - I really notice this when shopping for my boy/girl twins. Even at a young age, loads of choice for (Bermuda) style shorts for boys but short cut off ones for girls. Annoying.

FeralBeryl Sat 26-Nov-16 14:42:36

My DDs wear Daisy Duke type shorts all the time-but with stripey thick tights underneath smile
They are great

Booboo66 Sat 26-Nov-16 14:46:52

Gap usually has nice dresses.

Booboostwo Sat 26-Nov-16 15:50:05

I am clearly in the minority here, but if your DD chose the dress what is the problem? Surely it's more empowering for young girls to learn that they have rights over their bodies and choices over how their bodies are presented to others. A short dress is not sexualised on a 7yo as the 7yo is not a sexual being, it's just a short dress the same way she could wear shorts if she wanted.

As for young women choosing to sexualise their bodies that is nobody's business but their own.

Aeroflotgirl Sat 26-Nov-16 15:52:52

Boo yes they can choose within a reason, if your 7 year old chose, a mini skirt and belly top combination would that be appropriate? They are still children and have limited choice of what they wear. They do not always know what is appropriate and what is not!

Aeroflotgirl Sat 26-Nov-16 15:55:20

Little girls are not adult women, who are able to choose what they wear and have that right. Women have the right to sexualise themselves or not, but little girls do not, they are still children and should be treated as such, not mini adults.

Musiclife Sat 26-Nov-16 15:57:39

Debenhams for dresses?

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