AIBU to be annoyed with his hangover?

[HoneyJarvis]

Husband and I have been together for 20years today (but our actual wedding anniversary is a different date), we kinda thought about going out shopping for the day but didn't plan too much. He went out last night with some friends (admittedly he doesn't go out very often at all) and is totally hungover this morning to the point of being sick so he'll be laid up for most of being sick. Alcohol has never agreed with him, but at the age of 37, I think he's old enough to know his limits! He's been working quite a lot of hours this week and will be working lots next and then is away for his works Christmas do so I'm having to do the lion share of housework, etc and I work part time. I'm really annoyed with him as he seems to be like his every other time he goes out and never seems to learn. I'm shattered and needed a break today/ could have done with his help. AIBU to be annoyed?

[esiotrot2015]

Your husband is your brother ?!

[esiotrot2015]

Anyway ;-)

Yes I'd be annoyed too

[Isitadoubleentendre]

Husband and brother have been together for 20years today (but our actual wedding anniversary is a different date)

Ok, I am quite hungover myself this morning but.........I don't understand?

[HoneyJarvis]

Don't know where that came from...I didn't type that!!! Hahaha...very weird! My husband and I have been together...

[Crunchymum]

Typo I assume?

[ScotsHumphreys]

😂 ok!

YANBU. I have a similar problem with my DH who feels the need to drink every single weekend (fri and sat night) and therefore spends every weekend morning hungover with a face on. It's doing my head in and I've just told him so.

[TheNaze73]

if you celebrate your anniversary as it is, is cut him some slack

[esiotrot2015]

It's a tricky one this because

1. He doesn't go out very often
   

1. He's been working hard
   

However if you'd made plans then I'd be a bit upset
Maybe cook him a fry up at midday and he'll be feeling better

[PeppaPigTastesLikeBacon]

If you have young kids then I would be annoyed. If you don't then just chill out on the sofa with food and films. You said you had no real plans and he has been working hard and doesn't really go out. Not sure that you can be annoyed with that. What do you need a break from? Do you not get the bits you need to get done during the hours that H is at work and you are at home?
You have even said you need a break so I don't see the problem with being at home?

[SarahOoo]

The best way forward in relationships is to just accept he did it, the hangover is punishment enough and the nicer you are the more you'll get out of him later when he's feeling better hopefully!

[HoneyJarvis]

We have a 2yr old.

[HoneyJarvis]

And we're building a house so things are crazy busy with loads of paperwork to do...

[Sparlklesilverglitter]

If he is someone that only goes out every now and then I wouldn't have a problem.
If he goes out very regular (weekly go example) and has hangovers the next day then It would be an issue for me now we have a baby.

He will be feeling better by this afternoon and even his his not he can sit on the sofa and watch the child and you can take some time for yourself then

[ReturnoftheWhack]

I can just never bring myself to be annoyed about this sort of thing. You hadn't really made plans to be fair had you?

Sounds like both your lives are busy and your husband fancied a blow out, it's really not the end of the world.

[EatTheCake]

Unless it's a very regular thing? I would let it go.
Even with a hang over his still able to sit on the sofa and watch child play with toys or tv, so you can go about your business.

It will be me next weekend I have my work do on Friday

[HoneyJ]

I'll chill out a bit and just let the toddler go in so see Daddy for a bit (he's in bed), that'll teach him....hehehe!

[MrsBungle]

Ach I'm in bed now hung over whilst dh has taken the kids out. It seems your dh had a bit of a blow out and it's not a regular thing, that really wouldn't bother me unless we had set plans. But then, as I say, I'm currently hung over too so maybe my opinion can't be trusted!

[PhotosGinAndALongLieIn]

I'd let it go. My DP is always lovely to me if I'm hungover and I let him sleep if he is. Neither of us go out very often and so it's not like one of us is constantly blowing the weekend. If it's not a regular thing and you only had vague plans then I'd leave him alone. Embrace it and declare a duvet day.

[HoneyJ]

Oh dear. Little one bouncing on the bed while I got changed made husband vomit again. Think why I'm a little bit upset is that we've been together 20years today and this isn't the best way to mark the occasion.

[SarahOoo]

While its self inflicted, just be as nice to him as you can. Yes it's your anniversary but life goes on and he's suffering enough. Always think of the long term effect a big moan can have on your relationship.