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To have a weekend to myself?

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DefinitelyNotRuth Fri 25-Nov-16 22:42:51

I can't work out if this is the right thing to do or whether it's the tiredness fogging my brain!
I have two DC (2.5 and 12 weeks). I am off on a spa day next Sunday with a friend and have been asked out to xmas drinks the Friday before. All good (and different as I never go anywhere).
DH has now offered to take DC down to PIL for the weekend, meaning that I will be without them for 2 nights. I'm really excited about the prospect of having a lie in, drinking hot coffee and being able to clean the house from top to bottom but part of me feels uneasy about how excited I am! I didn't leave DD1 overnight until she was 9 months and only left her for more than one night when I went into hospital to gave DD2. DD2 is only 12 weeks old but I'm happy for her to go.
I'm sure I will miss them and will want them to come home as soon as they have left but right now I think it's a brilliant idea.
Should I tell DH not to go? I don't want people to think I would pick a lie in over my DC even if I totally would right now

FiveGoMadInDorset Fri 25-Nov-16 22:47:05

Go, your DH has offered, enjoy your weekend

rumpelstiltskin43 Fri 25-Nov-16 22:53:05

Oh do it, you deserve it.

OhMrBadger Fri 25-Nov-16 22:53:14

Do it! Do it! This may be your only chance for a quiet weekend for gawd knows how long. Grab the opportunity and run with it.

You will feel fabulous.


SavageBeauty73 Fri 25-Nov-16 23:51:29

Do it!

mymanchesterhome Sat 26-Nov-16 00:38:00

Would your DH turn down a couple of nights to himself if you offered to take the kids for the weekend? If not, go for it! (to be fair, even if he would, you should still go if you can smile)

Magstermay Sat 26-Nov-16 00:40:56

I have a 3 year old and 8 month old and would LOVE a night away from them - do it!! Doesn't mean you love them any less.

WussyWat Sat 26-Nov-16 00:44:38

God no, do it! In 2 weeks I am off for my annual weekend lodge break away with my best friend, it's almost my favourite time of year, the only time I am truly child free! I feel so guilty going but once I am there I realise how much it's needed and I am so much better after a couple of days to recharge. Enjoy flowers

DonaldStott Sat 26-Nov-16 00:44:56

DO IT!!!

greenfolder Sat 26-Nov-16 00:50:57

Do it! We left dd2 for 2 nights when she was 6 weeks and dd1 was 2.5. We both had the sleep of the gods. Still remember it now and they are 19 and 22😂😂

glitterazi Sat 26-Nov-16 01:10:44

Oh God, go for it!! You have by the sounds of it a lovely partner, and he's going to take your kids to their Grandma and Grandad's for the weekend.
They'll have a lovely time, all looked after and fussed over, and you get some much needed time to yourself. What's not to like?! smile
Jump at the chance knowing they're in safe hands and enjoy the rare time off!
You'll come back feeling all refreshed and extra happy to see them after the break.
Have some you time! You deserve it.

BarbaraofSeville Sat 26-Nov-16 08:05:59

You should be uneasy, you're getting excited about cleaning the house, FFS.

All the rest sounds brilliant, enjoy. And leave the cleaning.

MistyMeena Sat 26-Nov-16 08:18:32

Go for it, but for gawd's sake don't spend the weekend cleaning grin

jeaux90 Sat 26-Nov-16 08:19:24

Yep I'm with Misty ditch the cleaning and have a great time. Don't feel guilty, you deserve a break. X

NapQueen Sat 26-Nov-16 08:26:41

Don't feel guilty at all! Dh will love the time, his parents will be cocktail a hoop and the kids will be lavished with love care and attention.

Enjoy your weekend!!!!

SomewhatIdiosyncratic Sat 26-Nov-16 08:31:06

Go for it!

My DCs are older and although I've had weekends away myself, I've always been doing something that required getting up. Again, I get daytimes to myself now the younger one is in nursery, but I have to get up to get him ready. I haven't had the pure indulgence of waking up in my own time and lingering in bed as long as I wish for years!

GettingitwrongHauntingatnight Sat 26-Nov-16 08:35:10

Personally I would struggle as baby so young. Dh takes dcs to pil for a weekend or longer all the tine, started when youngest was 2. I really miss them but its great!

lightcola Sat 26-Nov-16 08:36:32

Do it!!! Or he can take mine instead and I'll make the most of it.

Bonkerz Sat 26-Nov-16 08:37:17

I try and get atleast 2 weekends away from my children a year. That may sound awful but it's necessary!

SVJAA Sat 26-Nov-16 08:39:18

Enjoy your weekend! Ours are 9, 3 and 2 and I would bite DPs hand off if he offered to take them somewhere for two nights and I'd end up cleaning too, because that makes me happy

Ohtheterribletwos Sat 26-Nov-16 08:43:27

Do it! It sounds lovely. Enjoy. (I'm jealous grin.)

Guitargirl Sat 26-Nov-16 08:48:51

Am also shock at the looking forward to cleaning but you know, whatever floats your boat smile.

Do it and enjoy whatever you want to do! Think of the quality sleep you can have (and waking up peacefully to a lovely breakfast).

WaggyMama Sat 26-Nov-16 08:56:22

Your DH is probably petrified at having to look after your DC's on his own, and as a typical man, is running back to his mum BUT at least he is doing it.

No kids, no PIL, no DH, a day cleaning, bliss.

Have a great time.

Candlelight123 Sat 26-Nov-16 09:04:54

Go for it don't waste the time by cleaning either grin

Finola1step Sat 26-Nov-16 09:11:12

Do it.

The dc will be with their other parent. Your ILs get to spend the weekend with their son and his dc.

But just a thought...don't knacker yourself out with a deep clean of the house. Focus on doing things that make the following week or fortnight just that bit easier.

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