to not want my son in just his swimming trunks on stage?

[wwoonn]

It's for a dance show... He is 4. Would you be happy with this?

[DearMrDilkington]

What's the problem?

[Sirzy]

Can't see an issue

[Yika]

I think it's fine.

[RusholmeRuffian]

I'm baffled. What's the problem?

[treaclesoda]

My only real concern would be that he'd be cold..

[BackforGood]

Bermuda shorts or budgie smugglers ?

[dodobookends]

Maybe my dc's dance teacher was a bit old-school but she had a rule of no girls' bare midriffs, and no tops off for boys until they were 16.

[GeillisTheWitch]

I'd worry about him being cold too. Could you get one of those long sleeved uv suits instead so you can layer vest/shorts under it if needed?

[Fadingmemory]

What does he think?

[wwoonn]

It has to be swimming trunks...

He doesn't care, but he's 4, he wouldn't see an issue...

Obviously just me then thanks!

[Diemme]

No I agree with you actually. At this age there's no real difference between boys and girls and when my DDs were 4 I wouldn't have wanted them on stage in just their knickers.

[Marmalady75]

I would feel uncomfortable if my son was asked to do this. I don't have a real reason, just one of those feelings. I'd be tempted to put him in swim shorts and say that's what he wears to go swimming.

[youarenotkiddingme]

We need more context I think.

If they are dancing to a song about the summer and going on holiday and it's a case of swim shorts are appropriate as its a costume I don't think it's as bad as they are expecting tight swim shorts like a leotard/ cycle shorts because in dance school they would wear a vest at least with them until much older and at the stage of per reforming in this type of costume.

[CaroleService]

Do you let him go swimming or to the beach in just swimming trunks?

[wwoonn]

The theme is 'At the Seaside' but I don't know really

[jelliebelly]

Might be a bit chilly but apart from that YABU

[lougle]

Would you make him cover up at the seaside?

[wwoonn]

I do feel like it's different

[lola111]

I feel at this point it is necessary to post this Jack picture , incase anybody needs to know what eye candy swimming trunks look like!

[Sirzy]

Why is it different?

I really can't see a problem but if your not happy with it talk to the teacher and ask if he can wear a t shirt too.

[lougle]

Lola111 we're talking about a 4 year old. There will be no 'eye candy' and that is grossly inappropriate, imo.

[Rachel0Greep]

Surely a bit chilly? Couldn't they wear shorts and tops or something if it's to convey summer / holidays etc.

[SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius]

Could he wear the sort of trunks that are more like shorts (not the loose Bermuda ones, the tighter trunks, if you see what I mean), rather than budgie smugglers?

[WorraLiberty]

You haven't explained what your problem is OP and why you feel this is different.

Are you worried some adults will get sexually excited?

[Ilovetorrentialrain]

OP it is different to being at the beach, I agree - totally unnecessary and potentially embarrssing for him! Swimming trunks have the same coverage as a pair of undies - he's got to stand on stage in from of parents and - worse - his mates like that?

Could he maybe wear swim type shorts and a vest?