I've name changed for this as I don't want to be identified, post may be a little vague because of that.
DH and I own 2 properties, one is a very nice House in a lovely area just outside of London, the other is a cottage by the beach that we rent out throughout the year.
I have a brother, who's 15 years my junior and who has ASD and DCs ranging from 15-25.
Until recently DH and I had our Will set up so that DB would inherit the cottage and DCs the family home to sell off and split, however we've now changed our minds for a number of reasons, including the governments current attitude towards the disabled.
We want to give DB our family home for the rest of his life, he's currently in his 30s with the mental age of an early teen, he can't live alone and he'll need care for the rest of his life. To fund the help that he will need, we have decided to keep the cottage for him as well so that he'll always have a income.
The new Will states that now we shall be leaving DB both properties and once he passes, the DCs can inherit both.
DH and I thought the best approach was to tell everyone and make our position very clear. It didn't go down very well, especially not with our eldest who's only 10 years younger then DB.
I don't think I am being unreasonable but I can see that their attitude really hurt DH. I understand the current housing climate but they are not the ones with the greater need.
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HouseDilema · 24/11/2016 17:30
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24/11/2016 17:49
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