We were good friends until age 20 when she got married and I never heard from her again until she was lonely and bored. I knew she was probably just using me but I have her one chance.
Since coming back to the UK she has put on around 4 stone and is now quite a big girl, I'm a size 12 and tall so while I'm not slim, im certainly not fat. Yet she embarrasses herself constantly by making comments that she used to be my size before he lost weight and how she would give me her old clothes but they will be too small for me. She seems to want me to think I am fatter than her when I am clearly not.
She comes from a well off family but is on benefits herself. I have a masters degree and that is something that makes her very jealous as she constantly says she will be doing the same and has a place Line up she just needs to call the uni and start (i just don't believe her).
I have introduced her to my friends and after only one meeting she was adding them on facebook and liking all their posts so they got a bit freaked out and removed her on there. She has absolutely hated them ever since and does nothing but bitch about them and try and turn them against me. They have done nothing wrong. If I'd met someone only once and they were Liking all my stuff I wouldn't do the same as them.
I have a best friend and he is lovely. I would never bitch about him and you can tell she hates how much he cares for me, she has no friends herself so seems desperate for one but loses everyone as why tire of her.
She keeps trying to force a friendship between my best friend and her, inviting him for tea at hers with his boyfriend. His partner has said he doesn't like her and just can't stand being around her because she bitches about me so much when I'm not there. He has never ever said anything like that in the 10
Years that I've known him.
She will sometimes put down the clothes I wear, the area I live etc.
I would never ever do that to anyone.
When I'm told my strangers or
Friends that I look
Lovely or I'm pretty she will say 'maybe In an unusual way'.
Also, my ex messaged her on facebook to ask if he could pick up my
Son from hers'. I actually hasn't been at hers but she text saying oh your ex text me saying hi. I think she was trying to make me angry.
Do you think she's jealous? She's certainly
Lacking in self esteem. I'm thinking of just ending this friendship. It's a shame as we actually have a lot of interests in common. Essentially though, I feel that she doesn't like me. Wants me to feel less confident and is just using me for company.
But then at the same time she would probably be someone who would help you out in a crisis, is generous to my Son when he visits and plays with him, never asks for money or gifts and is always willing to Visit me eventhough I live fairly
Out of the way.
She has openly joked that if she got a boyfriend I would 'never see her'. So maybe she's someone who goes all out until she has a boyfriend.
Aibu to say she's jealous and probably
Someone I shouldn't be around?
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Is my new friend jealous of me. She's queen of the backhanded compliment
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Mulledcider · 23/11/2016 13:43
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