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Breast cancer results tomorrow, scared witless

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WorriedWife2016 Mon 21-Nov-16 16:23:12

So seven months ago hubbie left,after 25 yr together
He now has stopped contact with kids both teens
Two weeks after he left dad had radical cancer surgery needing lots of care
Fast forward to October I got invited for a mamogram as a routine sepcreening of woman between 47/50
I was scared when I got called back last week
They found a lump
Took biopsy and loads of other mammograms
I go back for results tomorrow
I feel sick as a dog and scared stiff
What the hell am I going to do if it's cancer😢😢😢how can I tell the kids they have been through so much already.i feel like I have literally got the weight of the world on my shoulders to top it all off dad went for more surgery last week with even more planned ....daughter due in hossi for tonsillectomy on Friday and hubbie is just being absolutely feckless and not making contact or signing anything off for the divorce 😩😩😩

DisneyMillie Mon 21-Nov-16 16:25:07

No words of wisdom just flowers

It'll all be ok whatever - you'll get through it all

zofranks Mon 21-Nov-16 16:29:23

Do you have someone going with you tomorrow or are you on your own? Remember no matter what the Macmillan nurses and support team are amazing so you are never truly on your own. Good luck, I shall be thinking of you

WorriedWife2016 Mon 21-Nov-16 16:31:19

My sister is coming but we're not really close friends offered but I don't want to put people out I do think I would be ok in my own though just fall apart when I get home 😢😢

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Mon 21-Nov-16 16:37:46

WW holding your hand, waste of time advising you not to worry but even IF they have detected something, there's so much they can do now. And lots of support for people undergoing treatment.

It's exhausting worrying on top of everything else so try to pace yourself. Deal with this one step at a time, you don't know what you're dealing with yet. Post here, someone's always around.
How is your DD about her tonsillectomy. Focus on that if you can.

BackforGood Mon 21-Nov-16 16:39:04

It does make a lot of sense to have someone with you. They - especially someone not particularly close, I think could be even better - can listen to everything you are told, when you go into a sort of daze if the say you have cancer. Remember, it's statistically more likely that you don't. Even if you do then it is not the end of the world. Treatment is fantastic these days. The odds are with you. The support is there. You will have specialist breast cancer nurses you can phone and chat to about anything you are concerned about.
If you look in General Health there's a thread that runs and runs called Tamoxifen, and everyone on there is at some stage of concern / diagnosis / treatment, and give great support to one another.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Mon 21-Nov-16 16:40:34

Oh what a week you're having! That is so much stress and pressure; too much for anybody really. shock

I'm glad you're going to have your sister with you. You may not consider yourself close friends but she knows where she's going to be tomorrow - and that's by your side.

Please do update if you feel up to it; I suspect there will be a lot of posters thinking, praying and pulling for you... and it will be alright because you're 'in the system' and thank goodness for early screening It didn't used to be before age 50. smilethanks

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Mon 21-Nov-16 16:41:38

cross-posted with a fab post from BackForGood star

user1465335180 Mon 21-Nov-16 16:49:49

I've recently gone through various tests and been diagnosed with cancer so I know how very scared you feel, sitting in the hospital waiting to hear my prognosis was terrifying. However, everyone was so kind and compassionate, no blaming, just lots of facts and support. I hope you're lucky and it's just a cyst .

Mrsemcgregor Mon 21-Nov-16 17:04:17

flowers for you OP. Hand holding for you. I have no experience myself but my godmother went through similar last year (called in after mammogram). She had cancer, they operated did drug therapy and got the all clear within 6 months. It's not necessarily the terrible diagnosis it used to be.

It's also very possible it's just a cyst.

AutumnalLeaves38 Mon 21-Nov-16 17:27:11

Dear WorriedWife flowers

What an exceptionally stressful year you're wonder it must feel utterly overwhelming at times.

PPs have proffered very wise words, so I'm just adding my support.

I will be thinking of you tomorrow, and wish you (and your Dad & Daughter) well. You will cope. x

OneInEight Mon 21-Nov-16 18:05:15

flowers - wishing you luck for tomorrow.

NavyandWhite Mon 21-Nov-16 18:09:51

Bloody hell OP flowers

Deep breaths. Get tomorrow out of the way. Keeping everything crossed for you.

Mutiny0nTheBunty Mon 21-Nov-16 18:33:58

I know it's hard but try not to panic. Take it one step at a time. My mum has had breast cancer twice as well as a uterine (sp?) carcinosarcoma and is still going strong. Her advice is always not to panic.

Sending flowers OP and wishing you the best

peachesandcreamdream Mon 21-Nov-16 18:38:03

I think I posted on a thread of yours the other day.

I'll be thinking of you tomorrow.


beelover Mon 21-Nov-16 18:42:27

Support and hugs coming from me too, take it one step at a time. xx

Bobsmum02 Mon 21-Nov-16 18:57:41

Nothing really useful to say but just wanted to add my support. Almost 10 years ago my mum was diagnosed with breast cancer in her 40's so she too had young children at the time. She did have to have surgery but no chemotherapy or any follow on treatment it was very hard for a few months on the whole family and obviously longer for her to deal with the results of her surgery but to look at her now you would never know she has been through anything like that. Just wanted to give an insight that it is something that people can recover from. Wishing you the best of luck with your results tomorrow x

FlowerOfTheValley Mon 21-Nov-16 19:56:54

Wishing you luck for tomorrow and thinking of you. flowers

yerbutnobut Mon 21-Nov-16 21:05:40

I am just coming out the other side having been diagnosed last year with breast cancer, mid 30s. Do have someone with you when you go for results as if it is bad news they will tell you to call someone to be with you before they tell you. Easier said than done, i know, but dont think the worst just yet, there are many other reasons for a lump.
If it is breast cancer, believe me its not a death sentence, my life is hardly any different than before, except i dont take things for granted any more, and I've had everything on the menu treatment wise.
Best wishes for tomorrow.

LuluJakey1 Mon 21-Nov-16 21:09:07

Hope you get good news. You mst be terrified. Try to remember 9 out of 10 are not cancerous.

EastMidsMummy Mon 21-Nov-16 21:11:20

Good luck.

Temporaryname137 Mon 21-Nov-16 22:06:54

lots and lots of luck OP. I really don't know how you are supposed to cope with the waiting, but hope you manage to get some rest.

crispandcheesesanwichplease Mon 21-Nov-16 22:20:53

Hi worriedwife, I'm sorry to hear that you are going through this and am hand holding in spirit.

My mum was diagnosed with breast cancer earlier this year. Many, many people told me about friends and relatives who had beaten breast cancer which was little comfort to me at the time.

However my mum had surgery, no chemo or radiotherapy and is fine now. My mum is elderly and has many health issues so me and my sis spend a lot of time at medical appointments with her. I have to say that the quality of care available to women with breast cancer is brilliant. Compared to all the other medical departments we visit the breast cancer clinic is 5 star. The speed with which appointments are available, the humanity of the staff, the amount of time allowed at each appointment for questions and reassurance. The NHS may well be falling apart but with regard to breast cancer they are spot on and the provision s excellent.

Wishing you the very best for tomorrow. X

Timeforteaplease Mon 21-Nov-16 23:08:41

I'm in for biopsies tomorrow so will be in your shoes shortly. Fingers crossed for you. I would take someone with you if possible.

Atenco Tue 22-Nov-16 03:28:23

Nobody wants cancer, but it is really so, so different nowadays, very few of the people who are diagnosed with it, die from it. My sister had cancer over twenty years ago and not a bother on her. Several of my neighbours have had really serious run-ins with cancer and they are totally fine many years later, and I live in Mexico. If they say it is cancer it will most likely be a nuisance but you will live to tell the tale.

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