Dh seems to be always making mistakes.
Everything from losing his keys, losing his wallet, leaving the lights on in the car, driving off in the dark without putting the lights on, losing money, knocking drinks over, perhaps more seriously he completely wasted someone's time because he didn't listen to some information given or to me when I told him.
This is fine, we all make mistakes, what I can't stand anymore is that he won't take responsibility for his mistakes and prefers to blame his family.
For example, this weekend he gave our toddler jam on toast on the sofa. The toddler rubbed the jam into the sofa, so dh, instead of just cleaning it off got huffy with our older child for apparently having taken the throw off the sofa (even though this wasn't the case), and even if it was it was clear that the throw was off before he gave the toddler the jam.
He left the car headlights on and the battery went flat (a neighbour had text). So dh got huffy again with older child saying they'd put the interior light on. When dh realised it was the headlights and that he was the last to use the car, he blamed me for apparently making him go out to get chips (again I hadn't and the chips were his idea).
When he lost some money he blamed me for moving it.
When he knocks drinks over he blames me for putting them there.
When he fucked up over an appointment recently he had no one to blame because I tried to warn him. So he sulked and tried to make out he had some kind of illness and needs to see a doctor. Instead of just admitting he didn't listen to the information given or double check.
This is only scratching the surface of his blaming ways, it's been going on for years and I can't take much more.
When I try to speak to him about it he'll try to find some logic to his blaming. He even blamed his boss at work saying his boss blames him a lot so it's learnt behaviour.
Surely this is not normal? Don't most people just hold their hands up and try to rectify mistakes?
AIBU?
About dh always blaming others?
Zaratall · 21/11/2016 09:33
He sounds awful 
sorry, OP.
He has some positive points too, right?
Well in my experience thus is great training for working with public sector bosses.
Dark humour aside 
This also sounds like someone whi is worried about something unsolvable.. or is tired, or depressed..when i am like this i only notice realiity directly when something goes wrong... and i gwt it more in winter if i'm not religeous about my own sleep routine..including adding an extra hour.
i'm not saying its tge whole solution, but being positive might help as it sounds a bit ego defemcy...
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This drives me mad. My dad is never at fault for anything, even when we provide irrefutable proof he will sulk and blame somebody else for something that caused him to do whatever he did.
It's pathetic. I've taken to pointing out that he's wrong now (when he is) and making a point of refusing to let him blame his usual suspect for things that he has said or done (my mother being the usual suspect!).
He tried to blame her a few weeks ago for him constantly calling me fat 
I was heavily pregnant and a poke to the belly usually accompanied the comment so I snapped one day and asked him to stop saying it. It was all my mums fault apparently. She doesn't tell him these things
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