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Colleague's speech patterns annoying me

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cardboardPeony Sun 20-Nov-16 18:46:45

I think I probably ABU but I have a colleague who uses phrases like "X is going toilet". This really grates on me but I don't know how to say that it does or if I'm just being unreasonable and it's a regional thing.

Also we work with children and therefore should be using the language we want them to use, especially as lots of them are just learning English, but I think I am going to sound like a major pedant bringing it up.

OrangeKitchen Sun 20-Nov-16 18:54:21

Honestly have never heard 'going toilet' before but YANBU, it's awful.

happypoobum Sun 20-Nov-16 18:54:42

This would really grate on me too. I am not sure I would be able to bring it up though................

I also get stabby when I hear people say "It cost twenty pound" It's pounds FFS!!! Or, "he lived there for thirty year" ARRRGGGGGHHHH!!!

Clayhead Sun 20-Nov-16 18:55:29

I would say "Going toilet".

It's a regional thing.

Jinglebellsandv0dka Sun 20-Nov-16 18:56:34

Defo regional! grin

Clayhead Sun 20-Nov-16 18:56:38

Maybe I'm the annoying colleague? wink

hazeyjane Sun 20-Nov-16 19:00:32

How are you going to bring it up?! You can't just say, 'the way you speak really grinds my nuts, could you change the way you speak,please'!!

IEatCannibals Sun 20-Nov-16 19:02:05

In what region do people talk like that?

IEatCannibals Sun 20-Nov-16 19:02:25

Is it a south west thing?

DoinItFine Sun 20-Nov-16 19:03:28


Far better for the children to learn that English is a language with lots of regional variations that that it is acceptable to think the way you speak makes you better than other people.

PalcumTowder Sun 20-Nov-16 19:04:00

Midlands here and people would say "going toilet". I don't think you can say anything, really.

Flowerpower321 Sun 20-Nov-16 19:04:14

That would annoy me too, particularly if you work with children- it's not regional, it's wrong and makes you sound uneducated.

cardboardPeony Sun 20-Nov-16 19:04:18

Exactly hazey how do I bring it up without sounding strange?!
I always say oh X went to the toilet but never explicitly mention the lack of "to"

In terms of region I'm London.

YoScienceBitch Sun 20-Nov-16 19:04:22

Definitely a south west thing!
Going toilet, going shop, going pub...

BratFarrarsPony Sun 20-Nov-16 19:05:02

"Going toilet"- grin - oh no, do people really use the word 'toilet' in company?

IEatCannibals Sun 20-Nov-16 19:05:27

Well I'm in the midlands and Ive never heard it. Must be very regional.

cardboardPeony Sun 20-Nov-16 19:05:50

Doin i don't think I'm better than anyone else it's just I genuinely hadn't heard anyone say it before (and I used to live in the south west! So I probably did but i don't know why I didn't notice it)

BratFarrarsPony Sun 20-Nov-16 19:05:54

Why do you have to talk about people going to the 'toilet' anyway? or am I missing the point?

Edhilaria Sun 20-Nov-16 19:06:17

It's a Bromley, Bexley thing too, they all do it, 'I'm going Bluewater' is a regularly used phrase in my office.

DoinItFine Sun 20-Nov-16 19:06:37

What makes you sound uneducated is thinking standard English dialects are "wrong".

cardboardPeony Sun 20-Nov-16 19:06:38

Brat what do you say instead of toilet? If the children need to go to the toilet they ask to go to the toilet. What are they meant to say? Can I go relieve myself?

hazeyjane Sun 20-Nov-16 19:06:41

I really don't think you should mention it, it's just the way this person speaks.

Children will come across all sorts of different ways of speaking.

Cloudhopping Sun 20-Nov-16 19:06:44

YABU. Maybe the way you speak annoys someone else. We are a country of many accents, regional variations etc I think you need to get over yourself.

IEatCannibals Sun 20-Nov-16 19:06:52

I used to know someone from Bristol who would say "going Asda". And I would look at him like hmm

YoScienceBitch Sun 20-Nov-16 19:07:17

You can't really say anything though even if it annoys you. It would be like you asking me to stop being Cornish.

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