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Aibu over xmas presents for ds?

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StarsandSparkles Sat 19-Nov-16 14:28:31

My ds is 17 months old and for his xmas ive got him a 3 in 1 playset thats a pop up house with tunnel and ball pit with balls that i ordered off amazon, a sleeping bag with sleeves, a pair of wellies, and some new jammies and a big book of nursery rhymes and stories.
My sister seems to think this isnt enough and that i should be getting him more as what im getting him is boring as he wont like it?! He loves the ball pit at the soft play and would be in his glory with his own one at home
I had applied for a budgeting loan from the job centre as my cooker has gave up but im U according to her to buy a cooker and not get ds more presents.
Aibu to tell her to piss off and leave me to it?

ThroughThickAndThin01 Sat 19-Nov-16 14:29:50


He's far too young to know what it's all about.

Paulat2112 Sat 19-Nov-16 14:30:16

Of course YANBU.

ThatStewie Sat 19-Nov-16 14:30:17

Tell her to piss off. Every family does Christmas & presents differently. There is no right or wrong number but what works for you.

And, yeah, cooker should be prioritised over more toys smile

Nanny0gg Sat 19-Nov-16 14:31:14

He'll like the toys.

And the wrapping paper.

The clothes, not so much.

StarsandSparkles Sat 19-Nov-16 14:33:13

Of course when he is older he will get appropriate presents but til then he wont know the difference

LaBrujita Sat 19-Nov-16 14:33:22

You could have bought him a car, a pony and a mansion and some dopey git would come along and insist a) 'he won't like it' and b) all of their ideas are better. You will never win.

1. Don't tell people what presents you have. Just idly say "I haven't started yet" and change the subject. The only reason they're asking is to criticise or to have a sneer you haven't spent enough.

2. Your gifts sound lovely.

3. She sounds unhinged if she thinks you should be spending money on plastic tat when you're struggling for money and need an oven.

AltheaThoon Sat 19-Nov-16 14:34:52

He doesn't need anything! Make the most of the early years because when they get older their demands desires can financially cripple you!

Hobnobhobbit Sat 19-Nov-16 14:35:52

That sounds plenty at that age the box will be more fun along with the wrapping I think your sisters got her views all wrong your child needs a mother with hot cooked meals not more presents what you have is enough

StarsandSparkles Sat 19-Nov-16 14:36:42

My niece is already over run with toys that she has never played with and got fed up opening presents last year. I dont want that for ds as imo that ruins the magic of xmas day

AltheaThoon Sat 19-Nov-16 14:36:59

And a working oven is far more beneficial to a baby than a shed load of presents. The ball pool sounds awesome!

StarsandSparkles Sat 19-Nov-16 14:37:49

I wish there was an adult sized one avaliable grin

Cakescakescakes Sat 19-Nov-16 14:39:02

That is absolutely plenty.

1happyhippie Sat 19-Nov-16 14:40:38

It's up to you what you do. I think that's fine for your little one.

I have three children and am almost done Christmas shopping for them.
My sister thinks I should bulk there stuff up, by buying more wrap ups. Just so they have more to open.
I won't. I'm happy with the amount and I know they will be more than happy on Christmas morning.

notagiraffe Sat 19-Nov-16 14:46:57

It's loads. He'll love the toy and the story book. Don;t waste loads of money on presents for babies. they don't care. Put money aside if you have spare, for when they;re older. And if you don't have spare, why get into debt?

StarsandSparkles Sat 19-Nov-16 14:47:38

I just dont see the point of spending £££ at this age or even when hes older as i dont want to end up getting in debt for one day

Marmite27 Sat 19-Nov-16 14:47:45

My DC is a similar age, and she does have more, however I have the spare cash to buy things with.

If I were in your shoes, I probably wouldn't have bought as much as you have, as what she will be getting from family would be plenty even with out our gifts.

A working cooker should absolutely be your priority. Tell your sis to get her beak out! We all do things differently.

I hope you have a wonderful Christmas grin

StarsandSparkles Sat 19-Nov-16 14:51:58

My reasoning for the sleeping bag is that its always good to have a spare and with winter here in scotland always being freezing the arms would help him keep warm. Wellies because he loves muddy areas and puddles lol. Thank you marmite i hope you have a great xmas too

TheSoapyFrog Sat 19-Nov-16 14:52:14

YANBU. My boys didn't anything for their first Christmas from me and only a couple last year. Luckily they still aren't that aware this year, so I won't be buying them much.

InTheDessert Sat 19-Nov-16 15:00:31

A pop up tunnels was one of the most used toys we had. We moved when DS2 was 4, and didn't bring it with us - too bulky (our move involved aeroplanes), falling apart, but it was well used by the 4 and 6 yr old at that point.

StarsandSparkles Sat 19-Nov-16 15:03:06

The 3 in 1 playset is in a wee bag of its own and all folds down really small which is handy

CeeceeBloomingdale Sat 19-Nov-16 15:07:58

It's insane to spend more money than you have, that sounds fine for his age! If you find a quid or two spare pop into a pound shop and buy some character bubble bath and some bath crayons or something to supplement it but any more than that and he'll be bored unwrapping it. He needs a happy mummy more than toys, if you're stressing about money you're not going to be happy.

AltheaThoon Sat 19-Nov-16 15:08:35

Is is a 'pop up' thing? In my experience those bastards never go down like they should once they've been liberated from their polyester prison <eyes massive tent in the corner> grin

StarsandSparkles Sat 19-Nov-16 15:13:30

I got him wee tubes of bubbles that ill stick in to unwrap and a wee selection box = job done. Yeah its a pop up one... i wonder if ill have to wage war on it every time i want to put it away? 😂grin

Liiinoo Sat 19-Nov-16 15:20:49

When my DD was three we were skint and she got a Minnie Mouse umbrella and a few little bits from Santa (book, legging outfit, socks, selection box etc) She was thrilled with it. She is in her twenties now and has had some amazing presents since then (including diamond earrings and a car - not both at once!) but when we talk about presents and Christmases she still lists that year as the best ever.

Your DS is so, so wrong.

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