I've just sold my,story to a magazine...

(168 Posts)
PopGoesTheFuckingWeasel Fri 18-Nov-16 22:02:38

And I need to vent.

Past caring if this outs me.

About ten years ago I took my abuser to court. Two of my family members were extremely angry, and confronted me. The night resulted in me being kicked down two flights of stairs, and, as a result, my DS was born sleeping.

They've made my life hell,since. Trolled me on social media, etc. Around the time of the court case, it was picked up by a local newspaper, because of the unusual circumstances. I waived my right to anonymity, because I wanted to encourage others to come out.

Recently, the two family members have been trawling my facebook friends list, etc, and sharing the article (it's still searchable online) along with comments like "little slut broke up a family" etc.

So I decided to a) piss on their bonfire, and b), do something worthwhile. Again, if I can offer hope to just one victim out there, then it'll be worth it.

The shit will hit the fan now. I'll be called a lying, attention seeking twat.

PopGoesTheFuckingWeasel Fri 18-Nov-16 22:03:27

Please ignore the typos. Posting from my phone.

hesterton Fri 18-Nov-16 22:05:19

How could anyone read how you lost a baby being kicked downstairs and not feel 100% sympathy for YOU?

Very odd that they might think the article would win them friends.

I'm very sorry for your loss flowers

NeedATrim Fri 18-Nov-16 22:06:11

flowers You are a fighter. I'm so sorry for what you've been through.

papaverorientale Fri 18-Nov-16 22:06:42

I'm so sorry about what you went through. I'm sorry you lost your baby.
I believe you.

firsttimer12345 Fri 18-Nov-16 22:07:26

Sounds like you have done a very brave thing.
So sorry about for your loss xx flowers

PopGoesTheFuckingWeasel Fri 18-Nov-16 22:07:47

They seem to want to use the (old)article as a way to discredit me. They're sensing it to all my friends as a "look what your so called perfect friend is capable of" sort of thing.

AVirginLitTheCandle Fri 18-Nov-16 22:08:38

I think anyone with any common sense at all will be nothing but sympathetic to you flowers

The only person who looks like a twat is the one sharing the article and trolling and abusing you.

blueturtle6 Fri 18-Nov-16 22:08:59

flowers for you, well done for standing up to your abuser and the subsequent bullying.
Sorry for loss of your child

PopGoesTheFuckingWeasel Fri 18-Nov-16 22:09:06

Thank you- but no sympathy please? Because of what I went through, I've been able to help 4 other people through the court process. They have closure now. How can I be sorry for that?

HildaWazzo Fri 18-Nov-16 22:09:33

flowers

I hope you have support in real life. I'm in awe of your bravery.

TwirlyFoo Fri 18-Nov-16 22:10:36

Couldn't not comment. What absolute shit you have gone through. I hope you get the peace you deserve.

PopGoesTheFuckingWeasel Fri 18-Nov-16 22:14:57

I can't ever go full NC with these family members. Full disclosure (I have nothing to hide) it was my mother who instigated the abuse, and the two family members were my sisters. I have four, two of who I'm still in contact with, and will never know the truth about what the other two did. I've been protecting them since the day they were born, so it seems only right to protect the other two from the truth. I owe them that.

PoliticalBiscuit Fri 18-Nov-16 22:17:14

You sound like an amazing woman star

DamePlata Fri 18-Nov-16 22:18:43

Please just cut off anybody who doesn't believe your truth.

Don't deplete yourself trying to put forward a case to be believed.

Take yourself off social media and don't give any doubters a platform to disparage you.

wine

PopGoesTheFuckingWeasel Fri 18-Nov-16 22:18:57

MNHQ PLEASE just delete this if it's not allowed. I've been a regular for years, just recently nc'd, then forgot my original password! Will be nc'ing again after this. But here is the original article.

m.staffordshirenewsletter.co.uk/girl146s-decade-ofbrsex-abuse/story-20144182-detail/story.html

RubbishMantra Fri 18-Nov-16 22:19:19

I can offer a handhold. Was the abuser a family member? (Don't mean that as a question, more of a thinking out loud moment)

I'm very sorry you had to endure such a wrenching loss.

PopGoesTheFuckingWeasel Fri 18-Nov-16 22:20:40

I want to help people. The way I see it, I can't change what I went through...but I can use it. Could this be misconstrued in ANY way as attention seeking? Does it?

Evilstepmum01 Fri 18-Nov-16 22:21:49

Not sure what to say except I think youre amazing to have helped those people after losing your DS.

Did your court case suceed?

JockTamsonsBairns Fri 18-Nov-16 22:21:49

Totally overwhelmed by your courage in speaking out about abuse. I'm so sorry for what you've gone through and, of course, for the loss of your baby flowers. I wish you strength and peace in your life.

PopGoesTheFuckingWeasel Fri 18-Nov-16 22:22:57

"RubbishMantra* I'm actually not sorry! I hope this doesn't come across wrong, but thank Christ it was me and not someone who isn't as strong? They were looking for a victim...they fucked up a bit there, because they found me instead, didn't they? ☺

Benedikte2 Fri 18-Nov-16 22:23:52

I'd be proud to call you a friend when I knew your story. Folk who know and trust you won't have any time for your trolls. Well done to tell your story.
Good luck

Creampastry Fri 18-Nov-16 22:24:02

I'm sure you have helped people so well done for being so strong. I hope you have a fab Christmas.

PopGoesTheFuckingWeasel Fri 18-Nov-16 22:24:17

Oh bollocksyfuck...bold fail...sorry.

GardenGeek Fri 18-Nov-16 22:25:25

I read the article
You are a survivor! flowers

I am sure you will help many people with this.
Welldone OP.

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