For context: 2 dds, I am currently on mat leave with dd2 (6m). DP works full time (mon-fri 9-5) and extra freelance work evenings and some weekends.
DD1 (3) has been getting up and coming into our bed for the last fortnight or so and, for an easy life, we have let her (I know, rookie mistake and we should never have let it happen regularly). She is a restless sleeper, thrashing around and talking in her sleep, plus we only have a double bed and we are, ahem, not the smallest of people, so it got to the point that nobody was getting a good sleep. Added to that is dd2, who is very clingy just now and was only sleeping if she was in with me too - 4 in the bed, flailing toddler, snoring baby, eurgh!
So, we agreed that we would have to get dd1 back to her own bed and would just keep taking her back through to her room and settling her if she got up through the night. I also made some changes to the cot and routine etc to get dd2 out of our bed too.
Night 1 of new regime - dp went to bed first, I came up to find dd1 snoring away in our bed. I lifted her back to her own bed (he muttered an apology) and got her settled. She got up another 3 times through the night and each time I took her through and got her back to sleep (eventually). Thankfully dd2 slept pretty well in her cot.
Night 2 (last night) - dd2 has a cold, sleeping is awful so ended up in with me. DD1 got up twice, second time DD1 was already awake for a feed so I ended up with both of them in dd1's bed (a single) trying to get at least some sleep.
Still with me??
My question is, if I am off work just now, should it be me doing all of the nighttime shenanigans? Should I leave dp to sleep because he has to get up for work or should I expect him to take a turn too?
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Leonas · 17/11/2016 10:17
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