So much vanity

[Gingerlilly]

AIBU to not let my 15 year old dd get a waist trainer! Seriously are we going backwards? I have explained all the health issues and really why does a 15 year old need a cinched in waist, She is only a size 10 anyway. (Thats fat apparently, so she must think Im huge!) I am just so sad about the constant pressure that teens feel to look all gorgeous all of the time. I know times are different but I'm sure all this vanity is getting worse and worse. Anyway Ive said no and now Dd is sulking upstairs because I also won't pay for a gym membership. This whole argument has ended with me, dh and dd all not speaking to each other as usual.

[user1477282676]

Well I would pay for the gym if I could afford it. The waist trainer will more than likely just be a fad...she'll probably dump it after trying it on.

If she wants to get fit, what's up with the gym? She's 15 after all...not a little girl.

Waist cynchers aren't ideal I agree but in reality they're not that different from a pair of spanx.

[Stanky]

I don't think that there's anything wrong with a gym membership, but they can be expensive.

The pressure on young girls to be skinny is a shame. I don't know what the answer is other than to try to help her see that she is beautiful just the way she is, with or without make up.

[Sirzy]

If you can afford a gym membership - maybe as a Christmas present? - I would.

Make sure it's a decent one, get a proper induction and plan put in place.

[mickeyjohn]

Most gyms do student rates so wouldn't have to cost much. They're usually pretty good at providing appropriate sessions for that age group too. I think it's a great idea - fitness isn't about vanity, it's hard work & great for self esteem. She should go if you can afford it!

[mickeyjohn]

Too much, not to much!

[NicknameUsed]

I wish my DD would consider a gym membership. She is a proper couch potato.

[GreatFuckability]

A waist trainer is NOT the same as spanks. They are dangerous and unhealthy.