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Or would this put you off too?

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Wren1975 Wed 16-Nov-16 18:33:46

So internet dating - I'm messaging with a new guy (about third or fourth message) and ask what he likes to do in his leisure time. His response "I play with myself a lot. It's good exercise". This is from a man who described himself as shy so a little unexpected to say the least. I'm a bit gobsmacked so I reply "?? Have I misunderstood?" to which he responds "It's good for you". It's not the playing with himself I'm opposed to, everyone does it. It's not usually something you share in early conversation with someone you're getting to know though is it? Would you be put off talking with him or AIBU? confused

NavyandWhite Wed 16-Nov-16 18:35:41

I'd think a bit juvenile.

ChessieFL Wed 16-Nov-16 18:36:38

Yanbu, that would put me off that early on! You barely know each other!

JustSpeakSense Wed 16-Nov-16 18:36:45

This would put me off. He is online to meet women to shag nothing else. It's creepy and disrespectful, I'd end contact with immediate effect.

Bagina Wed 16-Nov-16 18:37:39


thecatsarecrazy Wed 16-Nov-16 18:37:44

Quickly move on. Next it will be dick pictures blugh

Sugarlightly Wed 16-Nov-16 18:39:11

Would put me off - but if it bothers you then maybe internet dating isn't for you, that's tame by most standards

Coconutty Wed 16-Nov-16 18:39:16

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Patriciathestripper1 Wed 16-Nov-16 18:40:02

Run away quickly

WLF46 Wed 16-Nov-16 18:40:24

He seems a bit odd, unless it's some kind of joke. Perhaps that's his sense of humour. It's better to be who you are when trying to meet someone new. Saves on disappointment later on when they let their guard down.

Someone I used to know (not friend) swore by the maxim "always tell a rape joke on a first date". Not to offend his date, but to see whether they stuck around for the second date or got the hell out. (I suspect the latter more than the former, but nobody could deny he was hiding his true sense of humour. He was a nice guy actually, just had a dark sense of humour. It must have worked anyway because he got married a few years ago.)

But anyway, trust your instincts, whatever they are.

ByeByeLilSebastian Wed 16-Nov-16 18:42:01

Urgh. I wouldn't even reply.

PortiaCastis Wed 16-Nov-16 18:44:34

Yep next it'll be a dick pic but it won't be his, it'll be something downloaded from a porn site. Should you get one send it back with the message
If that's the best you can do I'm not interested

Disabrie22 Wed 16-Nov-16 18:44:37

Yep don't reply

TheWitTank Wed 16-Nov-16 18:47:02

Yuck. Would definitely put me right off. Its leading up to a dick pic, I agree with pp.

pipsqueak25 Wed 16-Nov-16 19:15:38

gross, but he's probably a bit socially awkward [benefit of the doubt] but....i'd get out quick tbh.

Mummyme1987 Wed 16-Nov-16 19:17:43


Hellmouth Wed 16-Nov-16 19:18:42

Move on, sounds like he's only after one thing imo!

Weneverworked Wed 16-Nov-16 19:19:34

My reply would be 'bye'

ThroughThickAndThin01 Wed 16-Nov-16 19:20:19

Immature idiot.

BreatheDeep Wed 16-Nov-16 19:24:11

Expect he'll ask for pics to help his 'hobby' soon. Ick.

Arfarfanarf Wed 16-Nov-16 20:03:26

Oh yes.
You're going to get dick pics.

Butterymuffin Wed 16-Nov-16 20:05:36

Ugh. He clearly thinks it sounds cool and edgy. Are you sure he isn't a sixth former? I'd move on and keep looking.

PilkoPumpPants Wed 16-Nov-16 20:11:27

That's so so strange.

formerbabe Wed 16-Nov-16 20:25:19

It's either really creepy


He's trying really hard to be funny

Losingtheplod Wed 16-Nov-16 20:27:08

He's just told you he's a wanker. I'd listen to him.

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