About friends cancelling my leaving meal

[applesandpears86]

I've lived in this city for 4 years. On Saturday I am moving away to start a new job in a city where I know a handful of people.

This week I've arranged to see different groups of friends each night, to fit them around each other before I leave.

The group I'm supposed to be seeing tonight have all cancelled on me just now; one can't get a babysitter and one has to go to the gym because she didn't go yesterday or this morning.

I've also been seeing a guy for 8 months and this morning we said our goodbyes (don't want long distance), my house is getting packed up and I just feel scared and nervous.

AIBU to feel really upset about this and the fact that none of them seem to understand why?

[SeaCabbage]

Well the one who has to go to the gym is obviously a cow so nothing lost there.

YANBU to feel upset but if you have a few groups to get around to, maybe a night relaxing would be nice instead.

Good luck with the move!

[MrsHathaway]

It's completely normal to feel twitchy about making such a big move.

The group I'm supposed to be seeing tonight have all cancelled on me just now; one can't get a babysitter and one has to go to the gym because she didn't go yesterday or this morning.

That gym excuse is dreadful, but babysitters can be like gold dust so I'd be inclined to believe her. Could you reply "shall I pop round with Prosecco and Maltesers then? Would hate not to see you before I go"?

[RichardBucket]

Aw. I'd be scared and nervous too, you poor thing. Assuming all the other meet ups have been going well?

As for these two... The one who can't get a babysitter - depends if she just didn't bother to sort it, or if plans fell through. Assuming the latter, she isn't being unreasonable. She can't exactly leave the child alone.

Needs to go the to gym - That woman is no friend of yours.

[peachesandcreamdream]

Had to go to the gym?

You're well shot of that friend and id be telling her that.

What a cock.

[Smartleatherbag]

The gym? That's ridiculous. Babysitter is fair.
Good luck

[applesandpears86]

Well she is trying to join the forces and has a fitness test coming up in the end of January so she 'needs to get her priorities straight'. She obviously had every other evening and morning to go to the gym.

Suggested going round instead but thats not popular...

[chicaguapa]

The best bit about moving away is that you find out which friends were worth keeping. Time will tell whether these are.

Good luck with the move!

[MrsHathaway]

Tempted to say good riddance then.

[MovingOnUpMovingOnOut]

Gym woman is an almighty cunt.

Babysitting reason is fair enough but not wanting you to pop round is a bit mean.

Still, two less Christmas cards to send this year :)

[SuperPug]

Don't think you're missing much with them!
Had similar issues with a leaving do, one supremely selfish "friend" had to arrange a beauty appointment then, despite semi planning it and knowing the time
Good luck with everything, there are better people out there to be friends with.

[ninnypoo]

At least you know where gym bitch's priorities lie!

If it's any condolence, I've lived in my current city for 4 years. I'll be moving in the summer and when I do I'll have about 2 people to say goodbye to .. so the fact that you have made so many friends in this time shows you will have no trouble settling somewhere new.

[JustSpeakSense]

Gym lady is a bitch!

Good luck with your move, and to quote Dr Seuss: 'You're off to Great Places! Today is your day! Your mountain is waiting, So... get on your way!'

[Herecomedanotherone]

Are you sure they haven't arranged some sort of surprise for you? We arranged a surprise 'do'fir a friend once and part of the set up was that all friends except one cancelled on a night out, then I 'persuaded' her to come out with just me to a different venue. I'm sure you can guess the rest. Suffice to say, she had a wonderful time and it was the source of many happy memories for her. Any chance your friends could have something up their sleeves?

[blueturtle6]

The babysitter is mean with no invite round, if you were my friend and baby sitter had fallen through I'd bite your hand off. Prosecco and maltesers sound fab.
Gym friend is a bee with an itch.
Good luck with move and new friends

[Obsidian77]

Exactly what chicaguapa said...you find out which friends are worth keeping. I'll always treasure the friends who made an effort in such circumstances. Gym chick is actually doing you the favour of letting you know you don't need to waste any more time or energy on her.
Best wishes with your new start, it'll all work out.

[2kids2dogsnosense]

Well the one who has to go to the gym is obviously a cow so nothing lost there.

Seconded!

[YelloDraw]

+1 for inviting yourself round to babysitting friends house

[BalloonSlayer]

Oh God don't start saying "well maybe they've planned a surprise." That just makes it 1000 times worse when it turns out they haven't because they are shit friends.

[stopfuckingshoutingatme]

Gym bitch indeed !

Onwards and upwards OP

[MusterTheRohirim]

Good luck with the move, it sounds exciting. I hope gym friend fell off the treadmill and looked a tit

[AnchorDownDeepBreath]

Moving is difficult, and one of the worst parts is that it shows you who your true friends are - often before you go, as you've found out. Unfortunately it doesn't look like the gym friend will rate your friendship once you're not conveniently located anymore. Babysitter friend might.

I hope the rest of your friends come through, and that the move goes well. I've moved a few times now and it's always hard, but there's a freshness in starting again, and it's a good opportunity to re-evaluate everyone you put effort into.

[applesandpears86]

Well... offered to go over to gym friend's house last night after dinner with another friend (not late - around 7pm) but she was going to the gym again.

Today she has a day off work but is 'busy' getting ready for a date - the whole day apparently!

Looks like I know who my friends are now...

[Feilin]

That's a disgrace . I'd be saying something at the very least to "gym bitch"
That's the kind of "friend" no one needs.

[toffeeboffin]

Sounds like you're best off well rid.

Good luck in the new city!

[StealthPolarBear]

ThaT is bad but as others have said at least you know who is worth keeping in touch with