to move with no real plan

[FourToTheFloor]

I want a change. I love London but it's grinding me down. Dh isn't particularly fussed, he'd stay here as his family is close enough (Ireland) but I feel it's time to leave the UK

AIBU to insist on this. I've spent 7 years here, had 2 dc with fuck all support, put the security of family first but now I am desperate.

AIBU to wish I could have the confidence I had pre dc to move instead of feeling trapped here in my 'safe' life.

[AndShesGone]

What sort of change?

Seaside? (Brighton) Mountains? (Far away) ?

[MackerelOfFact]

What about your life will change if you move? Will you get more support? Will your needs be better met? Will the things that grind you down about London cease to grind you down? What will be better?

By all means explore the options regarding living overseas if that's what you want, but I don't think moving abroad is the magic cure-all that some imagine it to be.

[FourToTheFloor]

Change of country. I want to be near family. London has been fab for dh career but surprisingly not mine.

But we have a home here, secure jobs and 2 dd. I swing between wanting to be selfish (and thinking it's best for the dc ) and leaving to thinking it seems to hard to go.

[FourToTheFloor]

Oh sorry I should have put in OP we're both not from here and it was a compromise when we moved here

[AndShesGone]

Which country? Do you both speak the language? Do your dd's?

Sounds fab. If you say which country it is people who are living there at the moment might chime in with what jobs are like there at the moment, housing availability etc

[FourToTheFloor]

Australia or Ireland. We can't get unbiased opinions because our families and friends want us home so are telling us only the positive! We know both countries are expensive, I think salaries are slightly higher in Australia but feel a little...behind in Australia.

Ireland would mean keeping my job which I like but I'm not really progressing in unfortunately.

[FourToTheFloor]

Really Chipmunk, you don't think boredom or hating somewhere is good enough reason to leave? We've done pros and cons and definitely London loses out. But yet...here we still are. We seem to be stuck here.

I'm going to try again with dh tonight. I just need a change and the spontaneous side of me wants to stick the house on the market and hope for the best (flip a coin?)