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AIBU to tell SIL no presents this Christmas?

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Joolsy Tue 15-Nov-16 15:37:59

Back story: DH and his sister fell out in Jan 2015. She threatened to never see me, DH or our 2 DD's (13 & 7) again , and she's pretty much kept to her word. Fast forward to Xmas last year, she turns up on our doorstep a few days before Christmas laden down with a large bag of gifts for each of my DD's and a few gifts for OH and I. It was totally unexpected, we had sent them a card but didn't plan to do presents. So I rushed out and bought her, her OH and 2 DSs presents.

This year, after having no contact whatsoever, I want to text her to say please don't buy us any presents. She has form for spoiling my DDs at Xmas when taking little interest in them the rest of the time, even before the falling out. My DDs rarely mention her, thought I think they do miss their cousins. Should we still buy a small gift for her DSs (18 & 15) as they have nothing to do with the situation or just not do gifts at all? Thanks

LuluNTutu Tue 15-Nov-16 15:40:21

I'd give gifts to the DCs, not their fault the adults have fallen out.

Boredbeforeievenbegan Tue 15-Nov-16 15:44:31

I'm in a similar situation and decided not to do gifts at all, it doesn't sit right with me to not speak all year then exchange gifts!

user1479139212 Tue 15-Nov-16 15:51:50

"Families aren't just for Christmas"

You or your OH need to speak with her and tell her that she either makes more of an effort throughout the year or not at all.

It's not the children's fault your OH and SIL have fallen but it must be confusing for them to be ignored by their aunty all year and then get lots of presents from her at Christmas, kind of sad really.

Ahickiefromkinickie Tue 15-Nov-16 16:02:33

YANBU. I never understood why people give presents to people/kids they never see. It must be confusing for kids.

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