..to ask if your DH makes friends with EVERYONE

[ThePeoplesChamp]

.... and you end up dealing with the fallout ?!?!?!

DH would make friends with a plant pot upon first meeting. Is one of lifes lovely optimists who believes in 'good people' trouble is many people just arent these days and inevitably we get taken advantage of ...or worse.... spend our time dodging and hiding from people he's 'befriended'

Examples

Personal trainer.... £40- a session, I declined as I've been training for years, he got chatting to the guy, decided he would infact enlist him, and committed I would also come along to the session (he charged us both of course!!!). Result - nothing new learnt. Had to spend weeks dodging PT at gym looking to know when we'd next like a booking. DH just avoided the gym altogether.

Holidays - befriends EVERYONE, waiters especially, leading to insane tipping and interrupted meals while waiters do tricks with napkins and flowers. (Romantic eh?) oh and commitments to add on facebook and offers of places to stay when visit UK. (er!?!?!?)

Shop staff - example.... befriended local hardward store owner who now assumptively orders him stuff in for projects he's half mentioned, at 1.5 times the cost of B&Q and we end up buying as too polite to decline. ...or... we hide from the guy in our teeny village

Fella at night class ... offered lift home once, now a weekly thing, also gets collared into ferrying his family around


AIBU and an antisocial cow.... or is this a common DH problem?

[ICanTuckMyBoobsInMyPockets]

What the hell?

No, he absolutely doesn't.

I don't understand that at all. I'm all for a bit of chit chat but I can't say that I, my husband or anyone I can think of has made friends with someone they met in the street.

[WilliamHerschel]

My dp is only slightly more sociable than I am and I am very unsociable. He's much better at making small talk etc, but it's not difficult to be better than me.

Although reading your post it sounds a bit like your dh is being taken advantage of by some of these people. Maybe he needs to be a bit more assertive.

[EveryDayIsASchoolDay]

Nope. Definitely not. My dh and I both like our space, especially on holiday etc. We're very polite but not out for making new besties at every turn. Sounds a bit tiresome op 😢

[SpookyPotato]

No not at all and I'm so glad. We are both friendly to everyone, outgoing, have a laugh but that's where it ends and no-one bothers us. Our time is ours! There are lots of people who take advantage of kind hearts.

[HomeShapedBox]

My husband is one of those people who will stand and talk to anyone, when we moved house he made friends with all the neighbours, at work he befriends all the new lads

But, he doesn't actually "hang around" with any of them, he is just very very friendly and can stand around for ages having a good chinwag with people

I am also a very chatty person though, I'm one of them people who, if you start a conversation with me I will talk your head off as if I'd known you for years

[Sparrowlegs248]

Nope. Dh is the exact opposite.

[SouthWestmom]

Urgh yes, dh has a special 'working class geezer' voice he uses for befriending people on the phone or in shops.
The kids and I just look at him like

[SuperPug]

Sorry OP, this would drive me crazy. Good to help others out when you can but this is costing you money and your free time.
Shop and night class guy are massively taking advantage of your DH and it seems that DH runs away from silly decisions- you need to speak about this and also make sure he gets you out of difficult situations.

[CigarsofthePharoahs]

Having read the op I am glad I am married to a misanthrope. He never seems to make friends with anyone.
Well perhaps that's an exaggeration, but I think both DH and I have resting bitch face.

[Aroundtheworldandback]

Op you are describing my dh. On our first holiday we were standing in a taxi queue and within 5 minutes he'd befriended the entire queue and started a group conversation. That evening I saw him chatting up a bar waitress in front of me. If it was another guy I'd have been shocked, but by this time the penny had dropped and I just found it amusing. He will and does talk to anyone.

I'm the opposite, an introvert who likes my peace. Whereas I enjoy the company of friends, I re-charge by being alone for a bit, whereas he loves people around 24/7. He thinks I'm unfriendly.

He's also insanely generous and gets taken full advantage of by many family members and friends. Although he's a lovely guy, I actually think life's easier if you share similar traits to your partner.

[Oatsinajar]

Yes my DP is like this. Gives away stuff for free as well. It does irritate me, but makes me love him more too

[LookingGoodForTheLassies]

That's not simply making friends, that's not being assertive enough and letting folk take the piss.

[ArmySal]

Yes, he's very sociable, absolute opposite to me.

[iminshock]

My dp is the same.
Love him

[iminshock]

And actually I used to be too, but not any more

[FlyingElbows]

Mr Elbows will talk to anyone. I hate everyone. We are an odd couple.