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to buy my disabled daughter branded clothes?

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PennieB Mon 14-Nov-16 21:16:35

My daughter is in a wheelchair, she is mentally disabled. She obviously has no idea about brands, so no peer pressure, etc.

However, I'm not being unreasonable to put her in them am I? MIL seems to think it's because I want to 'jazz her up a bit' hmm would you think along those lines if you saw my DD in branded clothes?

harderandharder2breathe Mon 14-Nov-16 21:18:01

If she's happy and comfortable and you can afford it then yanbu

Daisiesandgerberas Mon 14-Nov-16 21:18:27

Go for it. Why wouldn't you if you can afford it? You sound lovely. flowers

DiegeticMuch Mon 14-Nov-16 21:19:03

Why shouldn't she wear what others in her peer group are choosing to wear? She's a girl who happens to be disabled.

ItsAllGoingToBeFine Mon 14-Nov-16 21:19:18

I think anyone who buys branded clothes purely for the brand is unreasonable.

However if you are buying clothes because you both like them, and they are practical etc YANBU.

In this case I'm not sure the disability is really relevant?

I wouldn't notice I'd someone was wearing brands or not. I only judge if they are wearing (to me) ridiculous clothes.

NapQueen Mon 14-Nov-16 21:19:29

I wouldn't think twice seeing anyone in branded or unbranded clothes.

Surely you just buy clothes you like?

Some brands, imo, are the price they are because of the quality. Some are just because of the name.

LimitedSedition Mon 14-Nov-16 21:19:50

YANBU And your MIL perhaps just doesn't 'get' it.

kerryob Mon 14-Nov-16 21:19:55

Do you like the clothes? Will your daughter be comfortable in them? If yes get her them! She's your child, sod what your mil thinks buy them

DeleteOrDecay Mon 14-Nov-16 21:20:20

I wouldn't think anything as long as she looked clean and comfortable.

Buy what you like for your daughter, it's no one else's business.

isthatmorelego Mon 14-Nov-16 21:20:36

Ok not being mean at all am disabled myself but why shouldn't your daughter wear them , why should she be different to other children ?

Rosae Mon 14-Nov-16 21:21:23

Tbh I wouldn't even notice if they were branded or not....

Do you have other children? What do you buy them?

PennieB Mon 14-Nov-16 21:21:47

Well, DD doesn't pick any clothes. She just doesn't really know, as I get her dressed, etc. so I go for ones I like, I suppose. Which tend to be branded, so I get them. I never though anything of it, but when I heard that I thought about and I'd hate for anyone to think that of me.

AndNowItsSeven Mon 14-Nov-16 21:21:54

Yanbu your dd should have the opportunity to be fashionably dressed just as her peers are.

KingJoffreysRestingCuntface Mon 14-Nov-16 21:22:21

I wouldn't know what was branded or not. I'd just see a person in clothes.

I'm quite unobservant. Probably wouldn't actually notice the wheelchair, tbh.

Am sure she looks lovely.

Manumission Mon 14-Nov-16 21:22:37

What does she mean "jazz her up a bit"!?

WiddlinDiddlin Mon 14-Nov-16 21:22:42

Buy clothes that you think she likes, that perhaps her peers like too, that you like, that are comfortable.

Whether they are branded or not is not really relevant.

I wouldn't pay stupid money for hyped up brands that she may not even like though, but equally I would avoid dressing her in the cheapest crap going on the grounds shes not able to choose/complain (I have no idea if she is or she isn't of course!).

3littlebadgers Mon 14-Nov-16 21:23:21

Not at all. I wouldn't even notice to br honest. I think the only thing I would notice is if you had one child dressed in good quality clothes and another in rags. Your daughter is cared for and loved. That is all that matters at the end of the day.

ITCouldBeWorse Mon 14-Nov-16 21:23:25

I once saw a lovely young woman who clearly had a lot of complex disabilities in a very intricate wheelchair.

I noticed (literally in passing) she had beautifully manicured and polished nails.

I remembered being so impressed because she needed a lot of care (based on her equipment) and yet her family not managed to do the essentials but managed to do that extra frivolous but lovely thing.

This was about 20 years ago and it stayed with me as I thought it might be the most loving care id ever seen.

So, I'd say how lovely that you make it that she can wear cool clothes like her peers like.

AnyFucker Mon 14-Nov-16 21:24:45

Your MIL sounds peculiar and a bit mean

Buy whatever clothes you like for your daughter. I like good quality clothes too and have always bought them for my kids whether they were aware or not

PennieB Mon 14-Nov-16 21:25:20

Ah, really pleased thank you smile no, she is my only child

Owllady Mon 14-Nov-16 21:26:11

She is deserving of nice clothes you know. Take no notice of MIL, what an odd thing for her to focus on.

VixenLupin Mon 14-Nov-16 21:26:11

I'd think you want your daughter to look nice. Just like most parents want their kids to look nice. If you can afford branded clothes then why not?

What sort of brands are you talking about? Despite having a bunch of children I have no idea what brands are about as they have no interest in fashion so I buy their clothes wherever is cheapest!

changedname26 Mon 14-Nov-16 21:27:24

Not at all unreasonable - I looked after a severely disabled lass a while ago at work and it was her family's request that we straighten her hair daily, apply light make up and perfume etc. She wore clothes from top shop, new look etc. No 'comfy joggie bottoms' or massive polo shirts as I so often see. As long as your daughter is clean and comfortable, why shouldn't she be allowed to wear bonny clothes?

IminaPickle Mon 14-Nov-16 21:27:42

Nasty comment from your mil
As pp have said it's a way of showing you care. You sound like a lovely Mum.

Manijo Mon 14-Nov-16 21:28:01

Why shouldn't your DD look hip and trendy? I am sure that to you she as is gorgeous and beautiful as my daughter is to me.
The most important surely is that she is comfortable.

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