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To suspect my nanny is drugging my child?

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Bambooshoot Sun 13-Nov-16 22:29:35

I have a nanny for my son who is now eighteen months old, she has been with us since he was ten months old. I recently noticed that the level of the emergency bottle of Calpol had gone down dramatically and I know we have not given him any. I put a mark on the bottle to see if it would go down any further, and sure enough, it has. She is the only other person in the house. Is it possible for Calpol to evaporate over time, or is she giving it to him and not telling me/writing it in the book? If so, would IBU to sack her on the spot for endangering his health, in that we could have come home from work and given him another dose without realising? I suppose she could be taking it herself, at a stretch - I just think this is a pretty serious allegation and I don't want to upset the relationship by suggesting she is giving it to him if it can just dry up anyway?

KingJoffreysRestingCuntface Sun 13-Nov-16 22:31:08

Have her beheaded.

DrQuinzel Sun 13-Nov-16 22:31:35

Is he unwell at the moment or anything else which would indicate the requirement of paracetamol?

Masketti Sun 13-Nov-16 22:32:14

Isn't it more likely she had a headache and took some for herself?

BlossomHillOne Sun 13-Nov-16 22:33:04

It's Calpol not cocaine - why don't you just ask her and remind her to write it in the book.

OohhThatsMe Sun 13-Nov-16 22:34:20

Why is it likely that an adult would be drinking Calpol?

It does sound as though she's giving it more frequently than she's telling you, OP. I would be worried about this.

BobbieDog Sun 13-Nov-16 22:34:42

This is worrying. How quickly is it going down?

PilkoPumpPants Sun 13-Nov-16 22:34:44

Why would you not just ask her?

SausageSoda Sun 13-Nov-16 22:34:45

I think you need to ask her directly before making any decisions/assumptions.

KarmaNoMore Sun 13-Nov-16 22:34:51

Hmm... I can't imagine a baby falling asleep with calpol, but I can't imagine it evaporating either.

Is your child ill at this time? I would get a new bottle and bin the old one, and keep an eye on it for a few days.

MrsExpo Sun 13-Nov-16 22:34:57

Couldn't you just calmly ask her if she's given any to your child before you make a drama out of it? If so, ask why. If not then a further explanation is required.

Bambooshoot Sun 13-Nov-16 22:34:59

No, he is not unwell, and I've made it clear that if she wants to give him medicine she should check with me first.

I'd gladly have her beheaded, who do I call?! I pay her top whack and am both shocked and hurt she could be risking my son's health like this - I know it's only Calpol but I only noticed recently and unless it's dried up she has given him the best part of a bottle without me knowing, I don't understand why?

PinkSwimGoggles Sun 13-Nov-16 22:35:00

ask her.
maybe she's taking it herself?

Underchipsandpeas Sun 13-Nov-16 22:36:30

Calpol is a really, really weak paracetamol. There's nothing else in it. He wouldn't be "drugged" as such even if she'd given him the whole bottle!

orangeterry Sun 13-Nov-16 22:36:36

Maybe she's taking it herself .
I take calpol as I can't swallow tablets .

baconandeggies Sun 13-Nov-16 22:36:47

you ask her outright that you've noticed she's been using the Calpol...

hazeyjane Sun 13-Nov-16 22:37:03

Unless your ds is in pain, why would she give it to him?

It should be written up though.

You need to just ask her.

SouthPole Sun 13-Nov-16 22:37:33

Actually it's not JUST Calpol. Overuse of paracetamol over time can lead to a build-up in the child's organs.

It's something I would want to know about, not least should you wish to give him some yourself and double up unawares...

Underchipsandpeas Sun 13-Nov-16 22:37:34

I've spilled more calpol than I've dispensed. One bottle in 8 months wouldn't have got us through teething either...

gunting Sun 13-Nov-16 22:37:39

Really? Just ask her.

KarmaNoMore Sun 13-Nov-16 22:37:50

The best part of a bottle? In how many days? Ask her, if you have had the bottle for a few months I wouldn't worry.

BoffinMum Sun 13-Nov-16 22:39:00

You should have a day book with everything like that written down. If she's not been liaising about doses your baby could end up overdosed. But I bet she's swigging it herself. You are going to have to ask her what's going on.

thetroubleis Sun 13-Nov-16 22:39:09

It wouldn't evaporate like that over time, especially not in a bottle.

where's the spoon? Is there a sticky residue on it? Is she 100% that she should fill the paperwork in if she gives him any? What timescale are we talking for the medicine to have gone below the mark you made?

Honestly I'd probably have a hard conversation and move from there. It's easy for me to say from over here though, so good luck.

baconandeggies Sun 13-Nov-16 22:39:17

Or remove the Calpol from the house. If she was giving it without your permission why would she do it so obviously? If a nanny wanted to drug a child they'd probably have their own stash..

paxillin Sun 13-Nov-16 22:39:42

My DH takes calpol if the paracetamol tablets are finished. As a grown up, a bottle only contains a few doses. Maybe she or your DH or cleaner take it.

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