DH and I have been together for eight years and have two DCs.
Around six months into our relationship, he announced that he'd quit smoking. This was news to me as I hadn't even realised he smoked in the first place. My DM smokes heavily and I lived at home so the smell wasn't obvious to me however I've never smoked myself and made it clear then that if I'd known he smoked at the start I wouldn't have started dating him.
I was putting his work trousers in the wash this morning and found a lighter in his pocket. Yup, he's started smoking again. I asked him why and he retorted that he's a grown man and doesn't have to explain himself to me.
I've been walking around in trousers that don't fit (recently lost a lot of weight) because I don't feel new clothes is something I can justify spending money on at the moment as other bills etc are taking priority and he's fucking smoking.
I feel completely betrayed and lied to. This is the icing on a very big cake as he also refuses to do housework or generally pick up after himself - hence me doing his laundry in the first place.
I've told him to leave. He's told me I'm ridiculous and can't afford the mortgage without him. I'm pretty certain I could and even if I couldn't, the DCs and I would find somewhere else without many issues. Besides that's hardly a reason to stay with a lazy deceitful cockwomble is it?
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NotSayingImBatman · 13/11/2016 09:13
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