And WWYD? Need quick responses. DH nipped out this afternoon to show his DB something at work (they work together) ready for Monday. DH has just text me to say he's in the pub now cos his parents showed up. Doesn't sound weird, but if I could tell you the stress and angst the in laws have caused us. I can't say everything here as it would fill a book, but they make their dislike of me and my family very clear. I like MIL but FIL is downright confrontational and aggressive towards me, and I find him quite scary. They would never come and see us, or invite us to their house, or arrange a meet up without us asking. We always make the effort (or me!) I ask DH when he last spoke to them, when are we going to see them etc. We have just had a baby so I'm trying to build bridges (even though it's me whose been wronged) for the sake of DH and DS. Last time we saw them I had invited them to our local pub.
Urg such a ramble sorry I'm really flustered. Anyway so they've just randomly turned up today knowing it was just DH. I'm freaked out they want to have a relationship with DH and DS and keeping me out of it (although DS is obviously with me ATM.) I was trying to build something stable that involved all of us as I believe the 3 of us come as a package and they should accept that. When I go back to work I've told DH he's not to take DS up there without me (although he hasn't agreed to this yet.) I'm worried of being shut out and not having control over the situation. FIL is very controlling of MIL and I'd rather DS didn't see too much of that growing up so he doesn't come to see this as normal, but I do want him to have a managed relationship with them.
So when my DH gets home what do I say? Am I overreacting and just being hormonal? Where they just being nice and wanting to see their son and I'm reading into it? Should I accept they don't want me in their lives and ask DH if he should just see them on his own in future? Or should I just keep quiet and say nothing about this out of the blue visit. So confused!
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ibelieveindragons · 12/11/2016 16:26
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