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AIBU?

Or is everyone dealing with pond life every time they leave the house?

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Funnyface1 · 11/11/2016 16:59

Sick of crap inconsiderate people. It seems to be everyday now. A child in my child's class was sick yesterday and went home. Today he's there in class, despite the schools 48 hour symptom clear rule. I asked a teacher and she basically said his mother had dumped him and gone before they could tackle her about it. I can easily believe this as the poor child is routinely spoken to like crap by his mother as he races to keep up with her with his clothes always hanging off him.

I've got a newborn at home and would ideally like to avoid a sickness bug in the house. Is it too much to ask that she takes the time to look after the poor little guy.

Also in brief, guy parking and blocking me in at petrol station when he didn't need to. Guy cutting in front of me at the shop checkout. People driving like lunatics.

I cod go on. It's just seemed like an especially crap day. But then again I am emotional right now.

Am I right and reasonable or whiny and unreasonable?

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SaucyJack · 11/11/2016 17:07

I dunno.

I think the 48 hour is OTT for a one-off chunder. The poor little guy may well have been totally fine all of yesterday, and be completely well to come back to school.

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AnyFucker · 11/11/2016 17:09

I dunno either

I tend to think that people who see idiots all around them are the common denominator, tbh

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baconandeggies · 11/11/2016 17:10

I think the 48 hour is OTT for a one-off chunder.

Do you know why it's 48 hrs since symptomatic? Jack?

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ExcuseMyEyebrows · 11/11/2016 17:12

I've noticed this too and wondered if I'm being over sensitive but I really think it's a general decline in manners, different cultural expectations and 'me, me, me' attitudes.

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Bubbles1986 · 11/11/2016 17:12

I disagree saucy, the rule is a pain but its there for a reason, I'm the type of person who is only sick once when im ill but I'm sure I can't have gone my whole life never catching a sickness and diarrhea bug. While the rest of my family have been d+v with multiple episodes within an illness i only ever have one episode but I'm sure I'm still contagious, I just have an extremely strong stomach.

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Doyouthinktheysaurus · 11/11/2016 17:14

I hate the phrase 'pond life' , it's horrid.

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IDismyname · 11/11/2016 17:17

I got completely blocked in while I was at Tescos this afternoon. I have NO idea how they got out of their van without damaging my car - there was a high brick wall the other side.

I couldn't decide wether to 'lose it' and go back into Tescos to get them to make a public announcement (thereby leaving myself open to some verbal abuse) or to slide across my front seat and awkwardly get into the drivers side. I chose the latter, but I could have easily been 70 years old and unable to do that.

People are just SO inconsiderate. Grrrrrr

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AnyFucker · 11/11/2016 17:18

Indeed, saurus

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FleurThomas · 11/11/2016 17:26

Going up escalaters behind someone with a huge backpack so you can't see around them, and then when they hesitate or decide to hover they don't even apologise when they cause you to fallS

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needsahalo · 11/11/2016 17:34

can easily believe this as the poor child is routinely spoken to like crap by his mother as he races to keep up with her with his clothes always hanging off him

Or busy mum who needs to be somewhere and said child has - again - taken 2 hours to get dressed and eat breakfast?

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Prawnofthepatriarchy · 11/11/2016 17:36

Most of us are doing our best, often under difficult circumstances. People are frequently kind, I find. Sure, you get grumpy, difficult, impatient people, but that's not the norm. I've heard it said that if you're always having similar problems with people, the common denominator may be you. Are you always under pressure, OP? Does other people's stupidity enrage you? That may be your answer. Relax, perhaps be a bit more tolerant.

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iMatter · 11/11/2016 17:37

My general rule of thumb is that if 2 or more people piss me off before 10 in the morning then I'm the problem.

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basketoffreshveg · 11/11/2016 17:39

The teacher said 'the mother dumped him!'

That was nice of the teacher Confused

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Minesril · 11/11/2016 17:39

There does seem to be an increase in idiotic driving lately...and a reduction in obnoxious cyclists. I can only assume that all the MAMILs are back in their nice warm cars while the rest of us real cyclists doggedly continue our commutes!

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corythatwas · 11/11/2016 17:41

Love that, iMatter, and will try to make it my own.

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thisisafakename · 11/11/2016 17:43

Vomiting isn't always a bug though, so fingers crossed that you will be fine. It can also be hellish/impossible for single parents without access to childcare to observe the rule without losing their jobs. I think it's been debated ad nauseum (no pun intended) on here though. It's hard but I do have some sympathy with those who don't have the luxury of staying home for 48 hours without serious financial repercussions. Not everyone has a partner, not everyone has an understanding employer.

As for general rudeness, idk. Yes, there is, but I accept that it's not all aimed at me. Some people are just rude people and we have to somehow co-exist.

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Andrewofgg · 11/11/2016 17:43

A woman went flying on my bus back home this evening because another had put her shopping trolley in the aisle to be tripped over. Other passengers protested and she just went on talking on her bloody phone.

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RavioliOnToast · 11/11/2016 17:46

I was unfortunately 'that mam'. My DD was being sick on Monday tea time, right through Monday night and again early Tuesday morning (7am-ish)

I rang the school Tuesday lunchtime and spoke to the receptionist and asked their policy on sickness. She actually told me that whenever they feel Better to come back then that's okay. So my DD went to school on Wednesday.

Waiting to pick her up and I spotted an infection control sign on the window and sickness and diarrhoea was actually 48 hours from last episode.

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Prawnofthepatriarchy · 11/11/2016 17:47

Alternatively maybe it's where you live. I know there are areas near me where antisocial behaviour is far more common than in others.

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Birdsgottafly · 11/11/2016 18:07

My Mum would have my youngest DD one day after school, whilst I worked. She's often feed her crap, which resulted in my DD throwing up the next day. So I'd send her in the next day.

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ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 11/11/2016 18:12

I'm not liking the term 'pond life', it makes me think you assume you're superior to others. Confused

A couple of people annoyed you today that's all. Life is a bit crap sometimes but you need to attempt some empathy.

Put it down to a bad day and have a Wine as it's Friday

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papaverorientale · 11/11/2016 18:14

Op I find when i'm shattered and emotional it's precisely all these little things that get me down when i'd cope if I was feeling a little less tired. Some people are arses sometimes. I can understand why if you have a newborn at home and you're feeling wobbly that you'd have struggled with your day.
I hope tomorrow is a better day and you and your baby avoid being sick.

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BratFarrarsPony · 11/11/2016 18:16

OP please do not describe busy parents as 'pond life'.

Also I seriously doubt that the teacher said that about the parent.

'clothes hanging off him'? How would that work then? Does it mean the clothes are too big? or what?

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dudsville · 11/11/2016 18:27

I went into a post office today and walked up to the till where the person behind the counter held up their palm and said it would be a moment, never making eye contact. But then I went to a train station where the person behind the till was exceptionally helpful. I never take the train and rather than just giving me what I asked for he helped to get a free photo id card so that my journey would be £30 cheaper.

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NotYoda · 11/11/2016 18:32

Think of all the people who did not fuck you over

Think of the people who were kind, friendly, considerate

They vastly outweigh the others. It may not feel that way but they do

Also, some of what some of you mention is an instance of one-off thoughtlessness. We all show one-off instances of thoughtlessness

If you routinely feel that everyone is horrible then you may be depressed. Because depression skews our perception of the past present and future

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