My dd is 10, (11 in May) and in year 6. All the girls in her class FaceTime text message each other constantly. She accesses FaceTime through the family iPad and she doesn't have a phone but has asked for one for Christmas.
She has had long term issues with another girl in her class which the school is aware of. I know these things are rarely black and white but at times I think it's tipped into bullying behaviour from this girl with my dd becoming very upset about various issues. After yet another incident which the school were involved in, I have told my dd to stay away from this girl where possible but the school is very small. We have talked numerous times about FaceTime messaging and I have a set of rules for its usage around safety but also around being kind, not getting into arguments, ignoring mean stuff etc and we discussed these again last night. She is aware we can see everything she writes on there if we want.
Most of the things she writes are pretty harmless but this morning she has opened up an old FaceTime messaging thread to this girl who has been quite mean to her and another girl and written something about a past argument which could be construed as antagonistic ( not really bad or mean, just foolish). I am so cross with her for contacting this girl but also for using FaceTime in this way. She's actually quite a bright girl but the 'rules' of FaceTime etc just don't seem to be sinking in. This isn't the first time she's written things which although not actually mean, have made situations or petty arguments worse and I'm worried she just doesn't have the maturity yet.
AIBU for stopping her using FaceTime messaging until she's mature enough or would it be better for her to use it and learn through her own mistakes when communicating with her friends? I also don't want her to feel isolated from her friends. Help!!!
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Cloudhopping · 11/11/2016 14:01
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