This is a really tricky one as I desperately don't want to hurt my DF. He has been through a lot but he's quiet an unaware person and subtle hints don't work with him. We live about an hour away from each other and in general get along with him.
Lately he's been calling every Sunday morning to ask if he can bring an old family friend up to see us. Let's call old family friend Roger. Roger is the most forward, eccentric person I think I know. In general he's friends but he has neveer seemed quiet right to me. I started noticing when I was a teenager that he's extremely touchy feely. He'll constantly hug or hold me and want to kiss me. I don't know if this is normal as anyone who knows me is well aware that I dislike people being in my personal bubble. I'm just not very uncomfortable with it.
One thing I know for sure is not normal is that often when he hugs/ holds me he touches smacks my bum. I honestly feel sick typing this out and I'm panicking thinking I'm inevitably going to have to see him some time soon. I remember being an uncomfortable 10 year old and going to my room when he'd arrive as he'd comment on my legs if I was wearing shorts or whatever.
So far I've used excuses such as christenings and illnesses to avoid this. I feel terribly guilty and as if I'm letting my dad down. Apparently roger can't wait to see me again and meet my 22 month old DD. Roger has cancer and is getting treatment so I really feel as if I can't deny him seeing me for that reason!
Sorry this is so long. I just want to know if I'm being an horrible bitch for not letting a sick man visit and lying to my DF.
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hateadulting · 10/11/2016 21:18
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