Are vegetarians just fussy?

[changemyself]

So, me and DP haven't spoken for three days now. We had an argument which was as a result of him saying I used to be fussy when I was younger. Which I was. I now eat everything, except meat, this is for moral reasons.
He went on to say that being vegetarian is just a faddy, fussy first world idea and said vegans are even worse.
In ten years he has NEVER had any issue with me being vegetarian and doesn't eat much meat himself as I do most of the cooking.
I couldn't believe it and told him it's going to take a bloody long time for me to get over this. AIBU to still be annoyed?

[Lorelei76]

oh I'd be furious! I used to be vegetarian, I have a few friends who are vegan and you know what, I honestly think it's the kindest approach to, well, everything.

I think I probably did get called fussy when I was vegetarian but I might have just told the offender to fuck off....certainly no partner criticised that choice.

[ItsAllGoingToBeFine]

Nice to see that he is so respectful of your beliefs

[WalterWhitesNipple]

Tell him naaa meat eaters are just greedy and sloppy Give him a taste of his own medicine.

[lastqueenofscotland]

Vegetarian and almost vegan here...

Yes opposing cruelty to animals on an industrial scale is just "faddy"

[JeanGenie23]

What a tosser

[itsbetterthanabox]

No he's just being a dick. A LOT of meat eaters are like this. Very defensive.
The west eating such huge quantities of meat is part of what causes starvation in the 3rd world. The whole world could be fed on a plant based diet.
Meat is indulgent and cruel.

[ChuckGravestones]

Not being funny bit what the fuck has anyone else's choice of food got to do with him?

[changemyself]

Unfortunately we are going away together this weekend so will have to speak to each other at some point, just feel so disappointed. He did say sorry but I didn't respond so I don't know if it was a 'sorry I didn't mean that' or 'sorry you didn't like what I said'

[hazelnutlatte]

Yep, a faddy, fussy first world idea. No one outside of the west is vegetarian are they? Oh apart from millions of people in India! Tell your dh to fuck off. Vegetarianism is not fussy eating!

[Shallishanti]

ask him what he thinks most Hindus eat

[Iloveunicorncuddles]

My partner is vegetarian and although we don't share the same beliefs I completely respect his choice. I've had to adapt and check groceries, etc but it's just something I do now. I would think it's more a not respecting you problem than anything else.

[Wolfiefan]

Many people are fussy.
Many people are vegetarian.
Being vegetarian isn't fussy. It's about strongly held views.
I'm a meat eater BTW. Sorry! I know some vegetarians who are fussy but also many meat eaters who are fussy. Being vegetarian doesn't mean you are being fussy.
My Dsis is veggie and I would never disrespect her views like this.

[LaContessaDiPlump]

You know what? Yes I am bloody fussy about what I eat (vegan), because the industrial production of living creatures fills me with discomfort (to put it mildly) and I do all I can to not be a part of it.

Ugh. Twatty thing to say.

[MrsMook]

Some fussy people use "vegetarianism" as a way of avoiding foods that they don't like. I phrase it like that because often they aren't truely vegetarian.

Most vegetarians are vegetarian for sound moral reasons which is not fussy.

He is being unreasonable to criticise you in this way.

(I was very happy to eat vegetarian food in India. "Lawn mower" chicken was not appetising, unlike the lovely paneer)

[elephantoverthehill]

There it goes - the loss of respect in a relationship.

[MalbecAndLindt]

YANBU. Fussy eaters can be vegetarians and vegetarians can be fussy eaters but they are not mutually exclusive.

I was vegetarian for several years. My friends always used to label me the fussy one when going out for a meal. Oddly enough, I was never the one that complained about where to go and was always the first to order. I love all types of food and will eat anything. My friends were the ones that moaned about only wanting 'plain food' so always ended up in pub type places and even then they would take ages to decide as nothing was right.

[LilQueenie]

he's a twat. I'm veggie verging on vegan. I don't want the hormones that are pumped into animals in me, or the cruelty to animals even from drinking milk (cows forced to give birth over and over then calves killed just to keep milk supply) Its also less costly to both me and the environment to be veggie.

[arethereanyleftatall]

Tbh, I don't really get vegetarians. Vegans I get, and think it's a lovely thing to do. But vegetarians - they don't eat meat on the basis of it being cruel, but then still wear leather, drink milk, eat fish (pescetarians I know but many still call themselves vegetarians). All seems a bit hypocritical, and attention seeking. Eat less meat if you want, eat ethical meat if you want, but I do find the label irritating.

[Llamallann]

You are not unreasonable at all!! I'm veggie. I am certainly not fussy. I like meat, I just don't eat it for moral reasons, I can't bear the animals being kept so awfully. If you're going to insist on killing them for food at least give them a nice life while they're here!

[Slippersandacuppa]

Veggie going on vegan here.

Yes, I am very fussy and proud of it! I'll eat most things, within reason, but I am extremely fussy about how ethical my food (clothes, house stuff, makeup, shoes etc) is.

[maninawomansworld01]

Thin there are a lot of veggies or vegans who do it because of sincerely held beliefs but there are also a lot of people who do it because they are fussy or just want to be 'different'.

You know the types, they're veggie, intolerant to this , allergic to that... bollocks are they. Attention seeking twats is what they are. The trouble is they make people think that all cigfies are just fussy.

DW is in a similar situation. She is genuinely intolerant of certain wheats (medically tested by a doctor not some 'lifestyle guru' quack type). It's
nothing bad but she just feels a bit wiped out if she treats herself to a pizza or piece of garlic bread.

It was picked up when she was a child way before this kind of thing became trendy but now if she says that she's can't have something she just gets the sort of 'oh you're one of those fussy, attention seeking weirdos who thinks it is in some way cool to have an allergy just to be a bit different' kind of looks when in fact she's genuine.

I am about as far from veggie as you can get (livestock farmer and in my spare time I enjoy hunting and cooking with what I kill), but actually yanbu.
You've made your lifestyle choice and people should respect that , especially your husband!

[RuggerHug]

Does he eat/drink absolutely everything that could be put in front of him or is he 'fussy' with opinions? Has he any morals or ethics he would be ok with that being said about?

[AntiHop]

arethereanyleftatall

all seems a bit hypocritical, and attention seeking

What a strange attitude you have to vegetarians. There is nothing attention seeking about being vegetarian. I just quietly get on with it, without fuss, as do all the vegetarians I know. Yes it's even better for the planet to be a vegan, but being a vegetarian is a better choice than eating meat.

[AntiHop]

Op, this is why I would only be in a relationship with another vegetarian.

[BestZebbie]

(disclaimer: I'm vegetarian)
I don't think being vegetarian or vegan is particularly "fussy" because all the restrictions derive from only one or two underlying rules. Most people have a couple of things that they don't like to eat, the difference is how many foods that then affects (but if eg: you don't eat onion it could be equally far-reaching).
To me, "fussy" or "picky" is having 137 different individual rules about acceptable foods, and in particular, rules where a food is OK presented in one way but not in another (without a medical reason eg: lactose).