First person to ever be pregnant in the whole wide world.

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User1234567891011 Tue 08-Nov-16 11:49:51

Don't get me wrong - pregnancy is the most extreme thing I can think of happening to a human body without even getting to the whole birth part.

I know complaining and grumbling is completely within the right of any pregnant person and it is normal for there to be pain etc in pregnancy.

However. How many of you have ever had to listen (mine is over FB and in person) to someone who acts like they're the first person to ever be pregnant (you know what I'm talking about). Moaning and complaining constantly over the tiniest of things, even if they're not exactly pregnancy related they somehow become because of it!

Example: ''My headache is so bad, pregnancy is so hard, I didn't realise it would be this awful! I'm going to have to go to the doctor to get some strong painkillers''. This is at about 6 weeks. hmm

User1234567891011 Tue 08-Nov-16 11:52:04

P.S This person has always been a massive drama-llama. If she bumped her arm it was ''obviously broken!'' everyone had to see the bruise and a trip to A&E is 100% necessary.

ItchyFoot Tue 08-Nov-16 11:52:44

The couple I know that are the first people to ever get pregnant post endless pictures of what they've bought the baby. At this point I could give you a comprehensive list of the babies entire wardrobe right down to the socks!

DontTouchTheMoustache Tue 08-Nov-16 11:54:35

I see where you are coming from but in fairness in the first trimester the worst pregnancy symptom for me was a constant headache which basically felt like I had a migraine for 3 months. It really was awful, I wanted to cry I was in so much pain from it.

User1234567891011 Tue 08-Nov-16 11:55:06

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CinderellaFant Tue 08-Nov-16 11:56:19

The woman I know who was exactly like this now has an 8 month- and still acts like she's the only one in the world who has a baby! She's forever posting about sleepless nights, how she can't function without sleep, how hard it is to get anything done, how she's got the flu but still has to deal with the baby.

Suck it up buttercup!!

DontTouchTheMoustache Tue 08-Nov-16 11:56:31

Perhaps time to unfollow?

AntheaBelveden Tue 08-Nov-16 11:57:43

I had a manager who was the first person to ever be pregnant.

She stopped letting people go on fag breaks because if she couldn't smoke anymore then nobody should be able to.

I currently have one on Facebook who is posting about twelve thousand pregnancy memes every day.

KayTee87 Tue 08-Nov-16 11:59:27

First trimester is bloody awful. She obviously considers you to be a good friend if you knew she was pregnant at 6 weeks, tbh you sound a bit mean but maybe you're just blowing off steam and don't mean to sound horrible about it?
Just stop seeing her if you can't sympathise or be happy for her.

smEGGtoplasm Tue 08-Nov-16 11:59:27

My sil reserves the right to be the first pregnant person, the first person ever to be stressed, the first person ever to have children who are ill or to be ill themselves. Nobody is allowed to feel more pain than her or even to talk about their pain because that's not fair, she has it far worse than anybody else. Obviously hmm

Gardencentregroupie Tue 08-Nov-16 12:00:07

To be fair this pregnancy I've had blinding headaches, but on the other hand I did have to unfollow someone on FB who was even posting photos of their dinner and captioning them "building a strong baby" etc

KayTee87 Tue 08-Nov-16 12:01:40

Also I had an awful migraine the day before I found out I was pregnant so her headaches could easily be pregnancy related.

User1234567891011 Tue 08-Nov-16 12:03:38

KayTee The whole of FB knew as soon as she did so no, I'm not a good friend, I see her in work and that's all if we're on the same shift. I can go a week or so without even seeing her. She didn't wait, just told everyone as soon as she knew, (I think 5/6 weeks?)

I am happy for her, I think its lovely that she's having a baby. I do not like listening to her complain constantly over none issues. ''Some woman didn't let me have her seat on the bus when I was I was pregnant to her.'' (at about 8 weeks I think that was).

AntheaBelveden Tue 08-Nov-16 12:03:45

smeg your SIL is my sister! Small world smile

smEGGtoplasm Tue 08-Nov-16 12:06:17

grin <waves>

QueenLizIII Tue 08-Nov-16 12:06:33

Ive had to unfollow one of my friends on facebook following the birth of her baby.

it is driving me mad.

She doesnt even call herself her name anymore or her DH his name, she refers to them both as mummy and daddy. It is really sickening.

We had two years of wedding photos constant reminders of it for two years after the marriage.

Now it is updates every few hours on baby.

You'd think no one else had ever had a baby before.

Evilstepmum01 Tue 08-Nov-16 12:06:34

I feel your pain.

My friend and I were bump buddies and her thick-as-mince sister (no kids) kept telling us what to expect and giving us awesoms useless advice.
Why? because she was studying childcare so knew everything.

FF to now 3 years later shes pregnant for first time and as I mentioned to friend can take her own advice! Ive taken her off fb cos her constant updates and sharing of 'helpful' bullshit parenting sites is getting on my tits!

I recommended 'The Unmumsy Mum' before I left.......

User1234567891011 Tue 08-Nov-16 12:06:41

I agree the headache could have been bad and pregnancy related but do you go on facebook to announce it? About an hour later she was posting about having a big meal and watching the X factor etc - I think because she has shown form with her illnesses etc have made me a lot less sympathetic because I know its not that bad.

Garden She's posted things about food like that too! Maybe its a weird universal 'First pregnant lady' thing??*

SpaceUnicorn Tue 08-Nov-16 12:06:50

Just wait till she's had the baby. No one else will have ever had a baby wink

5moreminutes Tue 08-Nov-16 12:07:37

Hmm

I have a manager who is the only person to have a child.

She has an 8 year old. A lot of the team also have children, in fact by some quirk the team is mainly made up of parents of 3 children each. Some have grown up children but most have children between about 4 and 14.

Nobody else is allowed to talk about their children - she rolls her eyes and changes the subject. Which might have a degree of merit - it's boring to talk about your kids non stop - except that she talks about her child a lot, tells long anbecdotes about her sweetly amusing antics and sayings and tells us repeatedly how her daughter is always saying she loves her. The only acceptable to her reply is "how sweet!" hmm The double standard is irritating to say the least - I think her kid is the only child I know whom I actively dislike, and I've only briefly met her in passing shockgrin

KayTee87 Tue 08-Nov-16 12:08:29

Op she defo sounds like an over sharer then. I found my pregnancy really hard but didn't go on on fb just to my husband. Could you direct her to a mn antenatal thread, I found it an invaluable place to be excited, get sympathy etc. from women going through the exact same thing and are interested in chatting about it.
Also I needed a seat on the train more at 8 weeks than I did at 20 weeks but I would never have asked someone to move for me, maybe she's just more forthright.

QueenLizIII Tue 08-Nov-16 12:08:49

Whereas one of my other friends has two DC in less than two years and one of them with downs syndrome. She never posts a thing. She just gets on with it.

It really does say alot about the individual...the ones who need an audience.

SpaceUnicorn Tue 08-Nov-16 12:09:01

Why? because she was studying childcare so knew everything.

I had a childless acquaintance approximately twenty years my junior than me give me endless advice when I had my second DC. She had a newly acquired childcare certificate, you see, and hence she knew the fucking lot! grin

Evilstepmum01 Tue 08-Nov-16 12:09:06

#feelingblessed is quite possibly the most nauseating hashtag ever. Also the most overused.

Jupiter2Mars Tue 08-Nov-16 12:09:31

If she's like this now, wait until the baby arrives. Then she'll have two people to expect the world to centre on. And with one of them, she'll be unsure whether they too hot/ too cold / just right or hungry/ thirsty / both / neither or tired / bored/ in pain / scared. Prepare to have to think about her and the baby approx every 20 seconds.

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