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to think that my 5 year old doesn't need to learn about Remembrance Day?

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RedDenmanBrush Mon 07-Nov-16 21:19:40

DD has been painting lots of pictures of poppies. They have a 'poppy play' area in class this week with toy soldiers. They have also watched a video about a rabbit in a field of poppies.

I think this is really.... off. I don't think it should be diluted into paint and sparkles. I think it is too important for that confused

AddToBasket Mon 07-Nov-16 21:21:35

You are wrong. It's a valuable celebration of rememberance. I

BubbleGumBubble Mon 07-Nov-16 21:23:17

It is age appropriate learning. Nothing wrong with that at all.

KindergartenKop Mon 07-Nov-16 21:23:50

Perhaps it's important to introduce the subject so it can be explained further when they're older.

Kids these days don't have family memories of ww1 or 2, they have no reference point. Their education on the subject therefore needs to be different.

But is this the right way to do it? I don't know.

Ayeok Mon 07-Nov-16 21:24:13

Then teach her yourself if it's important to you. Ours all know from a very early age, but that's because their DF (my DP) is a recent war veteran and Remembrance week in particular is a tough week for him. If you want your DD to know about the poppy, tell her yourself in age appropriate terms what it means.
Ours know that daddy was a soldier, that BIL was too and is still poorly because of what happened at war (PTSD) and that some of daddy and uncle xxxx's friends didn't come home. It doesn't need to be gruesome, just in terms kids can cope with.

RedDenmanBrush Mon 07-Nov-16 21:24:32

They aren't learning about it though. It's diluted beyond recognition and made into something to play with.

TeenAndTween Mon 07-Nov-16 21:26:31

I think you are wrong.
My DD was 3 when we first took her to part of a remembrance day parade. We started with 'soldiers died to help keep this country free' and moved on from there.
The children will be seeing people wearing poppies and asking about it.

Getnakedorgohome Mon 07-Nov-16 21:26:34

My 4yo understands (from school and home) that it is a day we will remember and thank all the soldiers from ww1 which was a long time ago, and all the soldiers since who have looked after us. She knows we have poppies because they grew where the army fought, and that the money from buying the poppies helps the soldiers who aren't in the army anymore. Dh is currently deployed and she is interested in everything military at the moment. Maybe you could tell her a bit more about it if you want it to be less sparkly?

BubbleGumBubble Mon 07-Nov-16 21:28:29

They aren't learning about it though. It's diluted beyond recognition and made into something to play with.

As they progress through school they will learn more and more about it.

Note3 Mon 07-Nov-16 21:28:53

100% it's important

RedDenmanBrush Mon 07-Nov-16 21:30:49

The children will be seeing people wearing poppies and asking about it.

Of course. I just don't think the school are answering those questions appropriately with all the paint and toys.

RedDenmanBrush Mon 07-Nov-16 21:32:11

As they progress through school they will learn more and more about it.

Exactly. What's wrong with introducing at 7 or 8, when they have a little more understanding of the world?

I can see that I'm in the minority, but I just think it's so important, it should be treated seriously.

ItsAllGoingToBeFine Mon 07-Nov-16 21:33:20

I'm not sure people are actually reading the OP...

OP, YANBU. Remembrance day is not about poppies. It is about remembering sadly the millions of people who died in the world wars. There is nothing about that that a 4 year old cannot understand.

Reducing remembrance day to just poppies is pretty shameful IMO.

BubbleGumBubble Mon 07-Nov-16 21:34:22

Because the poppy is everywhere this time of year so they are introducing it in a way the children can understand/familarize themselves with it. As they get older the history of the poppy will be introduced.

Why is that so wrong?

RedDenmanBrush Mon 07-Nov-16 21:35:23

I think it takes away from the solemnity of remembrance.

BubbleGumBubble Mon 07-Nov-16 21:37:05

Reducing remembrance day to just poppies is pretty shameful IMO.

Poppies ARE the symbol of rememberance.
There is nothing shameful about it. The poppy itself spurns the thought of rememberance and causes the wearer to think about those who died.

originalmavis Mon 07-Nov-16 21:37:39

I knew all about the world wars from my grandparents - and grandpa died when I was 3. We used to watch The World at War and would ask him why the Germans never managed to catch him.

My parents were kids during WW2 - old enough to be fully aware of events of the time. They would tell us about their childhood, what their parents did, etc.

Please don't dumb it down for kids!

Cocochoco Mon 07-Nov-16 21:38:12

I think you just put on the TV on Sunday and observe the 2-minute silence with her. It's very moving, especially when the Last Post is played.

BubbleGumBubble Mon 07-Nov-16 21:38:22

I think it takes away from the solemnity of remembrance.

Then YOU teach your child about rememberamce then OP. Nothing is stopping you.

RedDenmanBrush Mon 07-Nov-16 21:38:35

Ah crap. DD just thrown up so I'll come back on tomorrow- not ignoring anyone!

foursillybeans Mon 07-Nov-16 21:39:11

I think you gave your post a weird and misleading title.hmm

In answer to your title - YABU. All ages can and should learn about rememberance day.

In answer to your actual post - YANBU. Your DC will be completely confused by the references to poppies and rabbits whilst not understanding the point behind the poppies. The school should be teaching about the war and the consequences and why we can all be thankful for the people who served us and who still do serve our country. The poppies need little more than a mention at 5 yrs old.

RedDenmanBrush Mon 07-Nov-16 21:39:34

I do- I am questioning the way her school is approaching it... hmm

ConferencePear Mon 07-Nov-16 21:39:50

What on earth is wrong with teaching children elements of their own culture ?

zizza Mon 07-Nov-16 21:41:01

I think your title is misleading op. It made it sound like you don't think they should learn about it at all, but what you say in your post is that you want them to learn about what it means rather than just concentrating on the poppy ( which i agree with).

YouTheCat Mon 07-Nov-16 21:42:19

I'll never forget when my twins (now 21) were in nursery and we observed the minute silence. You could hear a pin drop.

They will learn more about remembrance as they get older. For now, it sounds like school are at least bothering, albeit in a rather diluted way. As time goes on, it becomes more and more important to remember.

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