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rainyinnovember Sat 05-Nov-16 16:44:05

I am fat.

I was A Nice Size until Dc1 then put on weight and thought I was huuuuuuge.

I lost it. Then it slowly went on after DC2. By the time I had DC3 I was pretty fat. Now I'm really, properly fat.

I've committed to lose it (long story which I won't go into but I've just been told off by my own child hmm) but I'm wondering about exercise.

The problems are, firstly I am big enough for exercise to hurt a bit. I don't mean normal aches and pains but actually 'shit, ow, I can't move.'

I hate swimming. Don't mind the sea or lakes or rivers but bobbing up and down in a pool is not for me. And you get wet. And cold. And hungry.

I can't run, I really can't. Even when I was quite young and healthy and energetic I couldn't run.

So, any ideas people? Not Zumba or aerobics ... I'm as coordinated as a seal on ice and as flexible as a paving slab so yoga/Pilates are out.

daylilies Sat 05-Nov-16 16:47:31

Walking? It's the best way to start if you haven't done much before. Walk at a brisk pace, arms up and moving.

MrsTerryPratchett Sat 05-Nov-16 16:48:42


ghostyslovesheets Sat 05-Nov-16 16:48:53

you can run - trust me - I was the worlds most shit runner ever but now run about 10k a week

but you could start with walking or cycling

TheNaze73 Sat 05-Nov-16 16:50:22

There was a larger woman that started at our boot camp class. Doing the class at her own level, surrounded by others has really helped her & looking at her, I'd say she's lost at least 5 stone. Control how you fuel your body X calories you burn off through sweating & you'll get there. Good luck

MrsTerryPratchett Sat 05-Nov-16 16:50:39

You do understand though that if you are uncoordinated, fat and negative join my club nothing is really going to immediately be awesome. You have to work at it.

Speaking as someone who three months ago was red-faced and wheezing after running 2 minutes and can now run for 40 minutes.

rainyinnovember Sat 05-Nov-16 16:53:49

Trust me, I can't, running is a no-go. Even dh gave up with me on running. But anyway let's not make the thread about that.

Ten years ago I was size 19. I cycled everywhere, went to the gym, skied, did loads. I still could not run. I just can't.

I do a fair bit of walking (have a dog) but doesn't make much difference. I'm hoping to find something that will get me sociable. I wish I could dance or something like that.

rainyinnovember Sat 05-Nov-16 16:54:16

Size 10! grin grin grin

MatildaTheCat Sat 05-Nov-16 16:56:08

Weight loss is 80/20 food/ exercise so unless you take up ultra marathons don't expect to loss much weight. Of course it's still good for you in a million ways. Walk. Walk briskly and purposefully and increase gradually.

Your post does come across as very negative, though. Fat people find ways to exercise. Aquarobics is extremely popular at my gym especially with bigger women. Pilates doesn't involve much bendiness. The trick is finding something you actually enjoy and can commit to. Would someone walk with you? Or use the time to listen to podcasts?

Good luck.

Toomanywheeliebinsagain Sat 05-Nov-16 16:57:53

Not sure how old your kids are but I get my exercise in via the bike. Cycle an hour to work each way, a few times a week (public transport others), cycle to school and nursery via bike with the kids in a dutch style bike (them at front). I've been amazed how quickly it's normal

BuntyCollocks Sat 05-Nov-16 16:58:06

Crossfit. People of all sizes and abilities, everything can be scaled, everyone is lovely, and it's a great community. It's not just for the Uber fit.

Lifting weights is the best way to get your metabolism firing.

Dobinette Sat 05-Nov-16 16:59:15

Circuits or HIIT classes.
Bodypump classes.

Group ex is more motivating that working out on your own.

rainyinnovember Sat 05-Nov-16 16:59:36

What is cross fit?

My post is negative because if i am truthful I hate exercise grin

Helspopje Sat 05-Nov-16 17:02:01

Agree. Plenty of larger ladies find that lifting weights kick starts your metabolism. V few lycra loverly skinny chicks in the free weights area if that'd put you off

iminshock Sat 05-Nov-16 17:02:58

It's all about the food

Timeforabiscuit Sat 05-Nov-16 17:03:30

Its going to be the food that does the weightloss, but exercise is about feeling good!

Walking is the thing for me, especially when the mornings are fresh and crisp. Make it a habit, do it everyday.

You can do anything you like, barn dancing, cycling, rowing - but its the things you take pleasure in and you do not have to be good at it.

What do you like?

JackShit Sat 05-Nov-16 17:04:54

Weights. Weights weights weights.

Timeforabiscuit Sat 05-Nov-16 17:05:36

Do not use exercise as another stick to beat yourself with, what do you do for fun?

BeBopTalulah Sat 05-Nov-16 17:07:29

Another walking advocate here.

But.....don't be precious with it. Strolling with your dog is not going to cut it. While lovely and relaxing and wonderful for the mood, it's not going to change your life.

What you need to find is an uphill woodland track, or at least a good half a mile uphill and walk like a woman possessed. 'Power walking' is amazing. No special training required (probably not officially 'power walking') but just walk as fast as you can without breaking into a run. While running is amazing exercise, when overweight it's not great for your knees. For the sake of your heart and lungs, you want to do something for half an hour, a few times a week that makes you sweaty and out of breath. You will start to find this easier and you can build on it.

It sounds awful, but it feels great. Honestly. Some great tunes will also help grin

Timeforabiscuit Sat 05-Nov-16 17:08:02

Weights is really good, my kids are dead impressed that I can lift a car! I can push start our small hatchback

Polkadotties Sat 05-Nov-16 17:09:34

Changing your diet will help you lose weight. Try low carb high fat, you will see really good results

Timeforabiscuit Sat 05-Nov-16 17:09:58

Angry cleaning? Put on some system of a down and get the bathroom done.

areyoubeingserviced Sat 05-Nov-16 17:10:47

Brisk walking and weights.
After a while you can try Callanetics or yoga.
Watch your diet

MyBlackCat Sat 05-Nov-16 17:11:02

Go to your local parkrun and just because it's called parkrun doesn't mean you have to run it, brisk walk it smile everyone is friendly and it's very inclusive.

MyBlackCat Sat 05-Nov-16 17:12:30

And another vote for body pump, it's tough but cardio benefits too, you will see your body transform before your eyes.

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