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Catsarefluffy Sat 05-Nov-16 14:18:27

Since she had a baby 8 months ago it screams lots even a few times at night. I am sick of it surely she must be just letting the baby scream. She went door to door to say how sorry she is and he's got heath problems. Would you call them?

Donthate Sat 05-Nov-16 14:20:05

No why on earth would you. He may have reflux

Catsarefluffy Sat 05-Nov-16 14:20:29

This is about me am the lady with the screaming baby but I wanted replys with the above as after last time am sure someone will call themsad

VladmirsPoutine Sat 05-Nov-16 14:20:57

What? Who is she and he?
Why do you think a screaming baby requires social services' intervention?
From the sounds of it you just sound fed up and want to make someone's life more complicated without really knowing what is going on.

Donthate Sat 05-Nov-16 14:21:15

Or any other manner of things that make him scream. If she was just letting him scream he would have learnt quickly that it didn't get him anywhere if she was just leaving him

TantrumsAndBalloons Sat 05-Nov-16 14:21:54

My ds1 screamed pretty much constantly for 9 months.
He had reflux. No matter what anyone did, he screamed.

If anyone had called SS I would have been devastated

VladmirsPoutine Sat 05-Nov-16 14:22:12

x post. Have you spoke with your gp? Do you have support?

Sparlklesilverglitter Sat 05-Nov-16 14:22:15

I wouldn't call social services for a baby crying

The thing is a baby is meant to cry. With added health issues it might cry even more. The monther said sorry for the noise and explained about health issues, what more do you want?

My DD some nights is a little gem and doesn't make hardly a sound but the next night she will wake up and scream for a good half hour every couple of hours.

I'm sure you are sick of it but when living in flats or some type of houses you will always get noise

Glastonbury Sat 05-Nov-16 14:22:27

No. My Dd2 screamed for the first 6 months of her life whenever she was awake. If someone had called social services it would have finished me off. My neighbour was fantastic and used to knock to see if we were ok.

TantrumsAndBalloons Sat 05-Nov-16 14:22:48

Ok I've just seen your update.

I very much doubt anyone will call SS. Does your baby have reflux?

Oliversmumsarmy Sat 05-Nov-16 14:23:26

Babies cry, they cry lots.

You are thinking about calling SS because a baby crys. Get a grip.

Bluntness100 Sat 05-Nov-16 14:25:05

I don't understand why you think someone would all social services as your baby cries, is there a reason for you to be concerned about this?

Catsarefluffy Sat 05-Nov-16 14:25:39

Thank you I needed to see that today pretty sure I heard someone tell him to fucking stop crying last night sad and am sure I heard I am calling social services

Eatthecake Sat 05-Nov-16 14:25:48

For a baby crying NO I wouldn't

My ds had terrible reflux and some nights if you'd of heard him scream good god it was ear piercing!

If your neighbour doesn't like it, it really is tough! If a baby cries a baby cries you can't do much if the child won't settle especially due to health issues

When you live in certain types of accommodation you will always hear neighbours noise, it's one of them things

Sassypants82 Sat 05-Nov-16 14:27:07

Please don't worry, babies cry. It's so stressful for the parents but it will pass. If you're feeling overwhelmed visiting your gp. Nobody is going to think anything negative about an infant crying through the night.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties Sat 05-Nov-16 14:27:09

It's very considerate of you to apologise to your neighbours but I really don't think you need to worry about anyone reporting you. It sounds as though you have enough on your plate with your baby. It must be hard for you flowers. I hope you have some RL support?

Perhaps your tiredness is clouding your judgement on this? I have a neighbour with a very loud crying baby and I feel nothing but sympathy for her. It wouldn't cross my mind that the baby was being neglected.

I hope things improve but for now concentrate on your baby and yourself and stop worrying what anyone else thinks. I'm sure you are doing the best you can.

titianprincess Sat 05-Nov-16 14:28:19

Please don't worry.

Even if some interfering bastard did call them then it would be pretty clear its unwarranted.

This is the last thing you need. Ignore them and try to get some sleep with your baby.

I hope it clears up soon flowers

Mozfan1 Sat 05-Nov-16 14:28:49

Even if someone did call ss, they would probably be laughed at... A crying baby? yeah babies tend to do that. Ignore your neighbours op.

LilQueenie Sat 05-Nov-16 14:29:26

can people please read the thread hmm No but I would be a little concerned. I had the same thoughts over my own child. Why would I have concern if I heard? because sometimes things do go unnoticed and its a sad thing that the thought enters peoples heads. It leaves those of us who have crying babies with a fear that we will be judged wrongly.

No, I would not phone ss on you. Even if anyone did, just let them in and see that you are coping and the baby is being cared for and they will close the enquiry. They have harder things to deal with than a normal baby crying.

Try not to worry. It's a phase - it will pass.

Maybe83 Sat 05-Nov-16 14:31:50

My dd had reflux eczema and allergies. She spent pretty much every day and night screaming crying for 6 months and the next 6 months screaming and scratching at night time.

I was so sleep deprived and she was so far from a normal babies behaviour/pattern's I was terrified our neighbours would think we weren't looking after her properly.

I knocked into my neighbours explained all the health issues and apologised for the non stop crying. Everyone was lovely to me and they love her now she a 3 and a funny boisterous toddler and how far she has come.

We were under care of gp and hospital so they all had it noted regarding her lack of sleep excess crying so that did help me try to be a bit less obsessed that social services would appear at our door and ask what was happening in our house day and night.

Has the gp been any help with the health issues?

Shockers Sat 05-Nov-16 14:36:48

"Stop fucking crying" sounds like someone being tired and ratty; that will pass.

If you are concerned that your baby is really difficult to settle, perhaps see your GP. My friend's DD had a problem with her scull which was rectified and turned her from a child who could crack glass with her screams, to a gurgling cherub.

It may not be a medical thing, but it's certainly worth checking.

Also, try not to worry too much about what your neighbours think because your son will pick up on your tension.


SpunkyMummy Sat 05-Nov-16 14:37:08

Have you seen a gp?

No, I wouldn't call social services. Unless there were some other factors you haven't told us.

Catsarefluffy Sat 05-Nov-16 14:40:07

He's got laryngomalacia with reflux so that's the cause . The hospital has been brilliant but even they said he's got some scream on him ! It's hard but it will get better .

Catsarefluffy Sat 05-Nov-16 14:40:59

Also I hate drip feeding but that's what I seem to be doingflowers

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