My dsil gives me all her kids old clothes. Her kid is a year older than mine.
I have no problem at all with second hand clothes, I am not at all precious about what my kids wear.
But honestly, she passes on everything, no matter how old or scruffy. She's given me stained t-shirts, trousers with the knee almost worn right through, a jumper with a hole in the arm, odd socks!. And casually says "oh sort through it and anything you don't want just put in the charity shop." I wouldn't put hardly any of it in a charity shop, it mostly goes straight in the rag bag. Occasionally there is a pair of joggers, or a jumper worth keeping.
I think she just can't be bothered sorting through it herself so passes it on to me. She can't honestly think I would want clothes in this condition?
I am usually passed on the black bin bag at a family gathering, so then I have to deal with dmil carrying on about how wonderful it is of her to pass on these clothes, how lucky I am to be getting all this for free, how lovely it is that the grandchildren can pass things on and share them.
I'm tempted to pull it all out in front of her and sort it out there and then, but dmil can't see very well so she wouldn't see how bad it is and would just gush about each individual stained item. And dsil is so thick skinned it wouldn't bother her either.
So I just sit there and smile and pretend to be grateful for all her worn out clothes, then trundle off home with my bin bag of rags.
But I am sorely tempted to say no next time. AIBU? Should I be more grateful?
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to be getting sick of hand-me-downs
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teaandakitkat · 03/11/2016 18:17
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