To ask if anyone here has accidentally got pregnant in their 40s?

(69 Posts)
user1477282676 Thu 03-Nov-16 10:58:08

It's more to soothe my fears. I don't THINK I can be pregnant...but there's a slim chance...I didnt even think about it until just now.

I've been very tired for the past 2 weeks, so tired I have been having a little sleep in the afternoon...and weeing a lot...and just now (it's evening here in Oz) I realised that I really needed an ice lolly...something I never eat...unless I'm up the bloody duff.

My period is due about now...so it could all be PMT I suppose...I'm 44 but still very regular with periods...no sign of menopause and my family tend to have theirs late....I think once you're in your mid 40s the chances of getting pregnant are slim to none aren't they though? Like...some months I won't even HAVE an egg...even though I have a period?

This isn't a "Oh go and pee on a stick" thread....I can't get hold of a test for a couple of days due to where I live...and I wouldn't come back here to say what had happened anyway...

I just wanted to know the stories of people who this has happened to so I can compare and feel comforted if it's only 3 or something.

NetHag Thu 03-Nov-16 11:00:06

I know several women who have had 'oops!' pregnancies in their mid forties...

hoddtastic Thu 03-Nov-16 11:01:45

in every group of friends I have, there's always one with a surprise.

I am dreading it being us remembers I need to book DP in for the snip

abbsismyhero Thu 03-Nov-16 11:02:19

My best friend from high school was a menopause baby

DragonHorse Thu 03-Nov-16 11:02:48

My grandma did, age 47. She mistook it for the menopause at first.

Tissunnyupnorth Thu 03-Nov-16 11:06:41

Yes. Was 42. My eldest 2 were settled in school, had a job lined up to start in the September. Using contraception and always have irregular periods. I was sat having a coffee with a friend mid August.

Argued with the staff in the coffee shop that their coffee machine was dirty (blush) and that it was making my coffee taste funny.........6 months lister DD2 arrived.

Tissunnyupnorth Thu 03-Nov-16 11:07:19

*later

PeachesAndCream1 Thu 03-Nov-16 11:16:21

Hate to tell you this OP, but if you are bleeding, you've still got eggs. Menopause is literally your body no longer having eggs, so no (or little) periods. I'd take a test . .

I booked myself in for a mammogram thinking I had breast cancer due to massive pains on one breast. Turns out when you haven't had a baby in 15 years, your body has a remembery! Was taking my boobs back in time lol!

Lucky he's cute though! I'm now a proud mumma of 19yr old, 18yr old, 15yr old and 15 month old!

SuperFlyHigh Thu 03-Nov-16 11:18:38

my friend did yes at 44. sadly she had a miscarriage but she also had a medicated underactive thyroiod and don't think realised that when you are pregnant with a thyroid condition you need more medical attention ASAP. not sure if it was planned but her DP didn't want a baby anyway.

I know of 2 of my mum's friends who got pregnant at 46 and 43 too.

user1477282676 Thu 03-Nov-16 11:22:44

Oh Lordy.

shock I don't think I've got the energy for a baby! The walk home from school with DD2 is only a mile and it nearly kills me daily!

BathshuaSpooner Thu 03-Nov-16 11:28:54

I became pregnant at 42. I thought nothing of the sore boobs, it was the need to take a sudden nap in the car park of a McDonalds that clued me in. A sneaky test in the loo of a pharmacy confirmed my third child was on the way!

user1477282676 Thu 03-Nov-16 11:35:47

Bath were you worried about health and all that? Yours and the baby's? How was your pregnancy?

Happybunny19 Thu 03-Nov-16 11:39:40

Yes me last year aged 41. It happened a LOT quicker than my previous two in my thirties. Don't believe the bollocks about fertility in your forties, I spent two years trying to conceive my first starting trying at 30 and eventually conceiving at 32. It seems I conceived last year straight after finishing my pill (I mean straight away, probably a day or two after finishing my last packet of pills). I thought I had one period after but according to my dating scans I got pregnant immediately. Have you done a test yet?

user1477282676 Thu 03-Nov-16 11:42:06

Bunny no...as mentioned in the OP, I can't get one due to living in a rural area (Australia)

Getting to the shops is an all out mission....planned for the weekend. There is a chemist close by but everyone knows everyone here and if I buy a test there, within days people will be offering me their old prams.

SuperFlyHigh Thu 03-Nov-16 12:04:49

just to reassure you OP look for articles by Jean Twenge - there 'are' of course risks getting pregnant and carrying baby to full term etc as well as other health risks (miscarriage etc) but generally as long as you look after yourself and have medical help the risks apparently are no more greater than having a child when younger.

SuperFlyHigh Thu 03-Nov-16 12:05:31

why don't you go to the doctor or order a test online from online pharmacy if you're worried about gossip?

user1477282676 Thu 03-Nov-16 12:07:32

Super I live in rural Australia. I can't get to the doctor that easily as I can't drive. Online orders here can take a LONG time.

TheTantrumCometh Thu 03-Nov-16 12:17:53

Not helpful but I if I lived where you do I'd be fucked. I can't come home from the shopping without forgetting something grin

I hope you get the answer you want when you get to test.

user1477282676 Thu 03-Nov-16 12:20:20

Tantrum well...there is that. I do sometimes forget things. I can and do get the bus to the bigger shops...but on days where I have other stuff to do, it's not viable as it takes too long!

There are small shops in my village but they're overpriced. God help me when I need something like flour...I have to buy overpriced, handmilled stuff at twice the price of the supermarkets!

Forfrigssake Thu 03-Nov-16 12:32:57

Yep! I had a 'shock' pregnancy at 42, 43 when baby was born.

We had a 7 month old who took over a year to conceive, and then had unprotected sex once (yes just once!) in a whole month and bam!!

Inadays Thu 03-Nov-16 12:41:51

I fell pregnant by accident the month before I was 40 (first time mum) and although the father was horrified, and we split up immediately, I went on to have a bouncing baby boy at 40 years and 8 months! He's the love of my life.

My pregnancy was great, no morning sickness or anything major (the labour was a bit more difficult!). I was shocked, as I had no idea you could be so fertile at that age... Good luck with whatever your outcome is smile.

LuddersWittgenstein Thu 03-Nov-16 12:56:08

Yes although we didn't go ahead in the end.

It was the right thing for us. We were happy with the size of our family.

DH got the snip within a week of it all.

pinkdelight Thu 03-Nov-16 12:58:38

My friend had an accidental pregnancy at 50! Never had kids before. Thought from the symptoms that she was dying! Nearly died of shock when the doctor told her the true cause. She had a lovely DD and is very happy now. If rather tired.

Good luck, OP. If you're not pregnant, could be worth stepping up the contraception - sorry if you already are using protection but it sounded like you were more assuming it couldn't happen so perhaps not using anything. Definitely need something till the menopause properly kicks in. Although of course even with contraception, accidents still happen...

ihatethecold Thu 03-Nov-16 13:00:08

Threads like these scare me, I've just come off the pill and i'm using condoms again, My friend who is a gp keeps lecturing me, in a nice way, on not getting pregnant!

I'm a granny to 2 lovely kids, there's no way i want any more

gruffalo13 Thu 03-Nov-16 13:00:28

Yes, I did, and I had my 4th child when I was 44. I've always been super fertile so in a way I wasn't too surprised. But DH was! ( he loves her now 💕)

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