Bought house in new development, dh's friend & his wife moving right next door, would have preferred strangers...

[indiana7]

Hi there, dh & I have bought a new house off the plans & it turns out our neighbours next door will be dh's friend (not very close) & his wife. Dh's friends wife is an acquaintance but her wider circle of friends (also part of dh's friends wives) & her never made an effort to include me or make any effort... It's taken a bit of the excitement of the new house away as I'm a bit nervous (or paranoid!!) that everything I say or do will be scrutinised/bitched about(very bitchy group) Any advice please, I am going to be very friendly of course but would have prefered to be living next to strangers & built up a neighbourly relationship that way....

[tofutti]

YANBU, but I would just treat them as nodding acquaintances from the off.

Let DH know you haven't hit it off with her and the other wives as they're bitchy and you don't want him to invite them over.

[indiana7]

Thanks Toutti, dh already know how I feel, he's seen the fb photos of the "girls" nights out, spa days etc & used to ask why I didn't go, took him a while to understand I wasn't invited & had no idea!

[LaContessaDiPlump]

Oh yes, acquaintances from the get-go.

Also, make sure you have excellent nets/blinds/whatever and that there's one-way mirror film on any windows of yours which face their house (bitter experience of shitty nosy neighbours here).....

[indiana7]

Good tip La Contessa )love your username btw!