Hello,
I live in a small one bedroom flat, my neighbours live in a spacious three bedroom flat and their one and only adjoining wall to mine is the one they have their baby in (opposite side of the flat to their bedroom plus a spare bedroom). Baby is about 8/9 months and I won't bash on but the latest was that on Monday night his cries woke me up at 2 am, he was still going at 2.45 and I went to sleep on my sofa. I can't move rooms- my lounge is combined with kitchen so I have no choice. They could absolutely move their baby to the room next to theirs that isn't occupied. I can hear everything, he is being left to cry. I have nannied newborns, mastered controlled crying, always helping people out with sleep training advice, the works. I know that babies cry and babies are babies but this baby is left.to.cry. I haven't met these neighbours, I am sometimes also disrupted by the mum out front smoking with a glass of wine talking to a friend though late weekend evenings so I'm sure there is generally little consideration for neighbours.
My AIBU is... I have compiled a nice and funny note which starts off with 'you may not be aware because why would you unless told?, goes on to suggest them potentially considering a room move to a room that doesn't adjoin (which is any other) and ends in my offer to help with sleep training or babysitting if ever needed. I have also invited them over so that they can see just how much can be heard through that wall, included a beer/coffee/wine'. I commute 2 hours to London most days and it's disrupting me massively. I would buzz their flat but I get home from work late and I leave early so wouldn't want to risk waking their baby (I know). Is this reasonable to post the note? P.S I wear earplugs EVERY NIGHT, the best kind, they do nothing, it's like he is on my shoulder. I am not lying when I say that he can go a good hour crying alone and it isn't just this week, it has been months. I have had this letter ready for about a month and just haven;t sent. To add to it all I miscarried about three weeks ago and it's like psychological torture as well as constant sleep theft!
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Upset baby & adjoining wall
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whyyyyy · 02/11/2016 13:01
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