Or for my Mum to ask him to move.
Going from the States to the UK for Christmas. Wasn't planning on it this year as it costs a fortune and is generally more stress than it's worth but my Dad's been diagnosed with cancer on top of his ms so I really want to spend Xmas with him.
We've booked an Airbnb for Dad's part of the trip as he doesn't want us staying with him which I totally get. Just starting chemo and is awake all night so sleeps a lot in the day and in chronic pain so has a short fuse understandably and ds is three therefore has the ability to be a bit of a pain in the ass occasionally .
Part of the trip will involve seeing dm and family in her area.
We usually stay with her but my brother has dropped out of uni so is back at home.
There is a double room which dh, me and ds usually fit in to at a squeeze but my brother is now in it.
There is a single room he used to use but now he's older he 'needs more space' and Mum says she 'can't ask him to move at Christmas that's unfair.'
So we've had to book another Airbnb. It quite a way away and adding another £550 to a trip that's already going to make money very tight for a while.
Aibu at being a little hurt that my brother didn't offer to move for a few days and that she wouldn't ask him?
She's got form for putting my male siblings before me and I know I can be oversensitive about it so just wanted to see what others thought. And check I'm not being a big whiny baby.
She's also made a big fuss about 'not doing a thing on Xmas day.' Which I kind of get, why should it always fall to the Mum to cater for everyone. So dh offered that we buy all the food for the family, cook it and wash up and she still got annoyed and 'she just doesn't want the agro'.
So now we're spending Xmas day with my Dad who's panicking about whether or not he'll feel ok and ruin everyone's Christmas.
Fucking hell who'd be an expat? Should have booked to Hawaii and got pissed the whole time.
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To expect my brother to offer to move rooms
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doobyboobydo · 02/11/2016 11:48
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